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Newsletter Vol. # 17 That's how I see it!

Newsletter Vol. # 17 That's how I see it!

Hello and welcome to this week's newsletter

What you'll find in this weeks newsletter: 99 Stupid Things...; were you aware that Depression was felt by over 670,000 Canadians? After several games this past week, You Should Sell Your Golf Clubs sounded rather appropriate; Did You Know-about potatoes and over fed people? Just what we need another Addiction; the Population is suppose to explode to 9 billion by 2042; Road Rage and how to handle it; and Reader Response.


99 Stupid Things the government did with your money!

MacLean's magazine ran a special report chronicling how government spending is out of control:

TV time: British Columbians saw $48,006 go to bringing Entertainment Tonight Canada to Vancouver for three days. Included in the provincial payout was $16,000 in airfare from Toronto and $12,000 worth of hotel accommodations.

Party on: The B.C. government sponsored a $3-million rock music tour last summer called JobFest, where attendees (when there were any) were offered on-site career counselling. Roughly $100,000 went to promotional kits, including glow sticks, guitar picks and glossy posters, mailed out to local businesses and media.

Moving pictures: Winnipeg city council voted to spend $10,000 to transfer a work of art from the old Winnipeg airport to the University of Manitoba, even though city staff recommended denying the request.

Stamped out: 2012 marked the 100th anniversary of the Calgary Stampede, and though it bills itself as the "Greatest Show on Earth," the federal government still felt the need to kick in $5 million to promote it, including putting a chuck-wagon food truck in New York City.

A black eye: In May, Halifax councillors voted to cut a cheque for $360,000 to cover bad debts stemming from a money-losing Black Eyed Peas concert two years earlier.


Depression

     One fourth of all women and 1/8 of all men will suffer at least one episode of this disease during their lifetime.

     By 2020, one aspect of this disease will be the leading cause of Disability Adjusted Life for females throughout the developing world.

     The disease costs the Canadian economy more than 12 billion a year.

     More than 670,000 Canadians will suffer from this disease

What is depression? Depression is a word that applies to a variety of different states of human existence. At one end of the continuum is normal depression, which is something everyone ought to have the capacity to feel because it is one of the normal reactions to life's events. In fact if you don't have the capacity to feel depression, you might have a kind of inappropriate emotional flatness or lack of responsiveness. At the other end of the spectrum, the concept of depression encompasses a physiological, biological and mental state, which can affect one's whole being with devastating results.

The exact cause of depression isn't clear. No one is sure why some people get depressed and others don't. Sometimes depression seems to happen because of a stressful event, sometimes for no apparent reason at all. What seems to be for sure is that brain chemistry and depression are related. What isn't clear is whether psychological problems cause changes in brain chemistry or changes in brain chemistry lead to psychological problems!

Genes could play a role. People whose blood relatives have had depression are more likely to have it too. However, not everyone who has a family member with depression is going to develop it.

Personality can have an affect on depression. However, there is no single personality that makes someone particularly vulnerable to depression. There are certain types of personality that seem to be more prone to depression and these people who tend to react more to stress, have difficulty dealing with stress, who tend to be more moody or more fearful and somewhat more introverted or shy or less interested in being with people.

There are three basic kinds of depression: 1) There is a pure depression with feelings of sadness or emptiness which are associated with sleep and appetite disturbances, fatigue, and difficulty concentrating that persists over weeks to months. This is called Uni-Polar depression. Subsequent episodes are possible but most often people have an episode and get better. A second type of depression is called 2) Bi-Polar disorder and this includes episodes both of depression and mania. Mania is almost the opposite of depression. With this disorder people have greatly enhanced or heightened view of themselves and their abilities, they need less sleep, and are very brusque their dealings with other people. They have heightened sexual needs; they tend to be very aggressive, there judgment is very badly disturbed and they may end up going through a family's life savings and do all kinds of things that are 'embarrassing to them and their family after they recover. A third kind of depression is 3) Dystamia and can best be described as chronic mild depression occurring over several years. In my practise I often refer to it as ''low grade depression".

Depression is not a weakness or character flaw it is a disease. It affects twice as many women as men. Depression is a serious medical condition with very specific symptoms.

It is interesting that quite often people who are depressed don't see themselves as being depressed. My clients don't talk about being depressed, they say they cannot concentrate, they can't read, they can't stay with a task and normal everyday things become very difficult. For example, a person who could run an entire family's schedule and work full time, can no longer plan a meal or find the energy to do one load of laundry. People go to doctors and ask to be treated for a variety of conditions and quite often it is depression they are experiencing.

Depression is a phenomenon that affects all parts of the body. People who are depressed are not just sad, they have difficulty in their thinking, feelings, and they often have trouble with their stomachs, headaches and other physiological issues. A more complete list of symptoms would then include:

Intense guilt over minor or imagined events
Irritability; restlessness, agitation or lethargy
Difficulty making decisions or concentrating
Unexplained crying
Hopelessness
Fatigue, feeling of being tired all the time
Thought of death or suicide
Social isolation
Loss of appetite
Overeating
Loss of interest in or ability to enjoy everyday pleasures
Insomnia, or excessive or disturbed sleep



You Should Sell Your Golf Clubs 
 
Jim decided to tie the knot with his long time girlfriend.

One evening, after the honeymoon, he was cleaning his golf shoes.  His wife was standing there watching him. After a long period of silence she finally speaks. "Honey, I've been thinking, now that we are married I think it's time you quit golfing. Maybe you should sell your golf clubs."

Jim gets this horrified look on his face.

She says, "Darling, what's wrong?"
 
"For a minute there you were sounding like my ex-wife."
 
"Ex wife!" she screams, "I didn't know you were married before!"
 
"I wasn't!"



Did You Know...

The most popular vegetable in North America is the potato, served as a French-fry or a potato chip.
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The number of overfed people in the world now equals the number of those who are hungry. While it is estimated that 1.2 billion goal hungry each day, another 1.2 billion are overweight.


Gaming--The Other Addiction

Cynthia Reynolds writes in MacLean's magazine about a new phenomena entitled, the "gamer widow." It's no longer adolescent boys but men in their late 20s and 30s who drive today's 25-billion gaming market-guys with jobs, guys with wives. These wives are called "gamer widow's."

About 100 million people worldwide play MMORPG's such as EverQuest, Halo 2, and Diablo, generating some $5 billion a year in subscription fees alone. Players work to upgrade their characters levels, which brings prestige, power and privileges-and that can be addictive. "If I didn't play so much I'd lose my rank, and you don't want that because you work so hard to get that rank." The games have no end.

One woman's story: "we were always surrounded by people. Now, he never leaves the computer. He lost his job, gained 60 pounds and refuses to waste game time brushing his teeth or showering. This formally sweet man knocked me to the floor because I flipped the breaker switch to tell him I was leaving."

So what is so appealing about gaming that grown men choose a game over real-life? "Many people have really boring lives," says Edward Castronova, a gamer and economist at Indiana University who studies virtual economics. "Online you're an instant hero in a like-minded community. If you work hard, you will be successful."

I remember a person I met had a 15-year-old who was addicted to X-Box and when his father tried to impose some boundaries on the time he spent on the game, the son went into such a rage that he and his father ended up in a physical confrontation. Personalities do change when there is an addiction in control.


Population

The world's population reached 6,000,000,008 years ago, and is expected to rise to 9 billion by 2042--double the amount estimated 60 years ago. It is believed that healthier eating, less waste and more efficient farming can allow Earth to support 10 billion people.
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Road Rage

Aggressive driving contributes to 56 percent of all fatal car crashes in the United States. Here's how to avoid becoming a victim:

Take the high road. If a driver makes an obscene gesture, don't respond in kind-it will only escalate the situation. In fact, avoid eye contact altogether.

Give them space. Let angry drivers get well ahead of you, or change lanes.

Don't give them a reason to be angry. Are you driving too slowly in the left lane? Did you cut off other cars or take 15 seconds to notice the light was green? If you're guilty, give an apologetic shrug or wave, or mouth "Sorry."

Reported it. If you're in a situation where you think there is a dangerous driver, don't hesitate to call the police.



Reader Response

Murdering one's daughter is another expression of the religious certainty that drives humans to do cruel and righteous acts against others. John Lennon got it right in his song "Imagine" when he says that we should treat each other as though this world is that only one we have and that should motivate us to do good things. The insanity of the Middle East is religion based. Would we behave better towards each other if there were no religion at all? Counting on "God" to repay us for good behaviour is hopeful, but without evidence.
                                                                                            Anonymous



Anything people ought to see or do this week?
Could we have a few reviews of Rainbow Stage and "The Fringe" offerings?
danrosin@drcounselling.com
Have a great week!

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