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Newsletter Vol. # 31 That's how I see it!

Hello and welcome to this week's newsletter

What you'll find in this weeks newsletter: The Truth and Reconciliation Commission-hopefully a start of a process; a bit on Obesity; if you want to learn you have to learn to listen-The Meaning of Life; Driverless Cars; A Test For Old Kids; a bit on Anger; and Reader Response.


The Truth And Reconciliation Commission has brought to light the devastating results of the Residential School experience on our aboriginal peoples.

Some communities lost entire generations to these schools-generations unable to pass on the ideals, the parenting skills, and the survival skills of their ancestors. The loss of these generations has had a profound impact through the decades, an impact that has been passed on from residential school survivors to their children, their grandchildren, and to wider community networks. It exhibits itself through increased alcoholism, drug dependency, violence, suicide, and various patterns of abuse and family dysfunction.
               Buffalo Shout, Salmon Cry edited by Steve Heinrichs

So what is the answer to moving forward in our attempt to repair the divide between aboriginal white societies? Neil Funk-Unrau, author, believes that it starts with an apology.

First, an apology acknowledges a particular situation is morally and politically wrong and unjust. Second, the event is named in terms that clearly indicate the apologiser's remorse and acceptance of responsibility for the damage done. Third, while naming the wrong doing and taking responsibility for it, the apologiser offers assurance that the wrongdoing will not be repeated by expressing a commitment to changed behaviour. Fourth, the apology may or may not offer some form of reparation or compensation.

I believe a process has started that will enable us as a country and fair-minded society to arrive at solutions that will allow us to put behind us our mistakes and grievous errors in the treatment of our aboriginal peoples. I believe the time has come to pull together as one--as Canadians. One nation made up of individual people pulling together.

Perhaps I am too idealistic- do you think it is possible to heal the wounds?
danrosin@drcounselling.com


We expect too much from the medical system and too little from ourselves.


Obesity

About one in four Manitobans is obese, according to a new survey released by statistics Canada. That is 24.5% Manitobans are obese-the national average is 20.2%.

Nationally, 5.3 million adults are considered obese and a total of 14.3 million Canadians adults are considered either obese or overweight. Three Maritime Provinces and Saskatchewan all reported higher rates of obesity been Manitoba Newfoundland and Labrador the highest act 30.4%. BC reported the lowest level of obesity at 16%.

Diabetes, an unfortunate condition of obesity, has a national average of 6.7% with Manitoba scoring the third lowest at 5.6%.


Health is not a given, it is a gift that needs attention like a plant.


Meaning of Life  

A story is told about a woman who once set out to discover the meaning of life.
First she read everything she could get her hands on - history, philosophy, psychology,
religion. While she became a very smart person, nothing she read gave her the answers
she was looking for. She found other smart people & asked them about the meaning of
life, but while their discussions were long & lively, no two of them agreed on the same
thing & she still had no answer.

Finally, she put all her belongings in storage & set off in search of the meaning of
life. First she went to South America. Then she went to India. Everywhere she went,
people told her they did not know the meaning of life, but they had heard of a man who
did, only they were not sure where he lived. She asked about him in every country on
earth until finally, deep in the Himalayas, someone told her how to reach his house - a tiny little hut perched on the side of a mountain just below the tree line.

She climbed & climbed to reach his front door. When she finally got there, with
knuckles so cold they hardly worked, she knocked.

Yes? " Said the kind-looking old man who opened it. She thought she would die
of happiness.

"I have come halfway around the world to ask you one question," she said,
gasping for breath. "What is the meaning of life?"

"Please come in & have some tea," the old man said.

"No," she said. "I mean, no thank you. I didn't come all this way for tea. I came
for an answer. Won't you tell me, please, what is the meaning of life?"

"We shall have tea," the old man said, so she gave up & came inside. While he
was brewing the tea she caught her breath & began telling him about all the books she had read, all the people she had met, all the places she had been. The old man listened (which was just as well, since his visitor did not leave any room for him to reply), and as she talked he placed a fragile teacup in her hand. Then he began to pour the tea.

She was so busy talking that she did not notice when the tea cup was full, so the old man just kept pouring until the tea ran over the sides of the cup and spilled to the floor in a steaming waterfall.

"What are you doing?" she yelled, when the tea burned her hand. "It's full, can't you see that? Stop! There's no more room!"

"Just so," the old man said to her. "You come here wanting something from me, but what am I to do? There is no more room in your cup. Come back when it is empty and then we will talk."


Victoria is a city where old people come to visit their parents. 


Driverless Cars

The era of the driverless car is nearly here. Google is planning real-world tests of its tiny, two-seater, self-driving cars California this summer, albeit with a 40 km/h speed limit in effect. Not to be out done, rival Apple recently bought a discussion GPX mapping firm, and Nissan and Tesla Promise self-driving technologies of their own. Is it safe? So far, Google's fleet of Lexus vehicles, equipment with driverless sensors and software, have logged just 11 accidents in 2.7 million km-most the result of being rear-ended by human drivers.


People in the "Helping Profession" treat their clients better than they treat themselves or their colleagues.


 A TEST FOR OLD KIDS

This is a test for us 'old kids'!  The answers are printed below, but don't cheat.  You don't get a prize, you just have some fun.

       1.  After the Lone Ranger saved the day and rode off into the sunset, the grateful citizens would ask, "Who was that masked man?"  Invariably, someone would answer, I don't know, but he left this behind.  What did he leave behind? _________________________.
       2.  When the Beatles first came to the United States in early 1964, we watched them on "The __________________ Show."
       3.  "Get Your Kicks, ________________________."
       4.  "The story you are about to see is true.  The names have been changed to ______________________________."
       5. "In the jungle, the mighty jungle,______________________."
       6.  After the Twist, the Mashed Potato and the Watusi, we "danced" under a stick that was lowered as low as we could go in a dance called the "________________________."
       7.  "Nestlé's makes the very best . . .  ______________________________."
8. "Satchmo" was America's "Ambassador of Goodwill."  Our parents
shared this great jazz trumpeter with us.  His name was_________________.
9. What takes a licking and keeps on  ticking?___________________.
10. Red Skelton's hobo character was named______________________
and Red always ended his television show by saying, "Good Night and _______________________________."
       11.  Some Americans who protested the Vietnam War did so by burning their _________________________________."
12.  The cute little car with the engine in the back and the trunk in the
front was called the VW.  What other names did it go by__________ and ______________________________.
       13.  In 1971, singer Don MacLean sang a song about, "the day the music died."  This was a tribute to ___________________________.
       14.  We can remember the first satellite placed into orbit.  The U.S.S.R. did it.  It was called ______________________________.
       15.  One of the big fads of the 1950's and 60's was a large plastic ring that we twirled around our waist.  It was called the ___________________
      
Answers - after Reader Response


Anger

Anger is not a disease, with a single cause; it is a process, a transaction, a way of communicating. With the possible exception of anger caused by organic abnormalities, most angry episodes are social events: they assume meaning only in terms of the social contract between participants. The beliefs we have about anger, and the interpretations we give to the experience, are as important to the understanding as anything intrinsic to the emotion itself. That is why we don't always know whether we are angry or not. Sometimes it takes someone else to help us realize that in fact we are angry. The task for a quarrelling couple is not just to negotiate a mutually acceptable understanding of why they are angry at each other, but also to decide what to do about it, and then do it.

To find out why we are fighting is not the got the goal; solving the issue, moving ahead is what we want to put our energy into.


 Reader Response

Your notes about the job and emotional transference rings a bell for me. While I wouldn't say it's my whole life, I definitely tend to bring my emotions with me, and get upset by things that aren't my responsibility. I've been very unhappy of late, even though I got a promotion and a raise, and am doing very well. I think part of the reason is because my company tends to do layoffs on an annual basis, because of restructuring and financial decisions. It's always very impersonal in terms of who gets the chop, but our team has been hit 3 times in 4 years, so that makes me feel insecure about my own position, and morale of the team in general takes a hit. We've had to hire and train more people than I can count, and just when everyone is getting comfortable - boom! - layoffs. The other reason I'm not so happy is because I'm not really doing what I'd like, which is working in children's literature.
Anyway, it was a good post, and has me thinking about things a bit. Thanks!

Colleen

Thanks Colleen, for allowing me to print your response and I'm glad you enjoyed the article and it got you thinking. Sounds like your company really reacts to the financial bottom line. I hope children's literature is in your future, if that's where your heart is.



 ANSWERS:
       1. The Lone Ranger left behind a silver bullet.
       2. "The Ed Sullivan Show"
       3. On Route 66
       4. To protect the innocent
       5. The Lion Sleeps Tonight
       6. The Limbo
       7. Chocolate
       8. Louis Armstrong
       9. The Timex Watch
       10. Freddy, The Freeloader and "Good Night and God Bless"
11. Draft Cards (Yes, bras were also burned.  Not Flags, as some have 
guessed).
       12. Beetle and Bug
       13. Buddy Holly
       14. Sputnik
       15. Hoola - Hoop 


I know this time of year runs a lot of you ragged and so I wish for you a cup of tea or a touch of eggnog and some quiet moments. Good luck with your shopping, it will all be worth it on Christmas morning.

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