You are here

Newsletter Vol. # 37 That's how I see it!

Hello and welcome to this week's newsletter.

What you will find in this weeks newsletter: Cellphones are putting me off; an excerpt from "Veronica Decides to Die" by Paulo Coelho; what I thought of The Heights; another new panacea drug for those dealing with feelings of inadequacy, shyness, and passivity-Cabernet Sauvignon; the cost of Workplace Stress; Road Rage-an explanation; the worlds most expensive pizza; Reader Response.


Cellphones

Is it just me? I get very upset when I observe someone driving their car and talking away on their cell phone. They don't seem to realize the lives they are putting in jeopardy. But it's not only these dangerous situations that bug me, I am also irritated when they invade my ear space with their private conversations that I couldn't care less about. They don't seem to realize how rude they are being and once more, they don't seem to care about other people's feelings. They don't seem to be embarrassed when talking about personal family issues or where to meet after sneaking out of work early. I recently observed a person holding a conversation on a landline and texting on their cell at the same time.

Pamela Eyring, director of the Protocol School Of Washington, which teaches social manners to corporate and government clients, views public texting as "rude". It isn't professional. It's saying, to hell with all of you. Eyring has identified the "Four Stages Of Blackberry Abandonment": confusion, discomfort, irritation, and then, if texting continues, outrage (you lean back and you just stare at them). It's an addiction, she says one that puts personal and business relationships, both of which rely on making others feel valued at risk. (In a recent survey by dating site Zoosk, a third of singles said they'd left a date early because the other person was "constantly glancing" at their cell). The consequences are dire, Eyring says: We're losing our one-on-one people skills and ability to engage in uninterrupted, focused conversations.

It's paradoxical isn't it? That the communication devices of today really can bring together people from all parts of the world and at the same time the are limiting the development of skills that are fundamental to face to face communication. The cell phone does have a great positive benefit to our society but we had best be careful that we don't lose the ability to communicate face-to-face and that it doesn't become more dangerous and more irritating than the positive benefits. Balance is the key in all things!

A City University of New York study found that, "Social Networking Obliterates Etiquette": thumbs drum in rise of multi-task rudeness, "68% of those surveyed thought it was disrespectful to conduct a real-time conversation while texting someone else; 32% didn't. 10% of people under age 25 didn't see anything wrong with texting during sex. Yikes, so much for focusing on what you are doing.

Kevin Spacey, became a cultural hero when he yelled out, "Tell them we're busy," when a cellphone rang during a London performance of The Iceman Cometh.                                               Anne Kingston and Alex Ballingall, MacLean's

Cell-fishness certainly seems to me an appropriate description of the newest group of communication inventions that most people don't need (in my opinion) and everybody wants. I must commend the communication industry on a great job of marketing. However, along with each product they sell could they please include a pamphlet on proper etiquette, so that people like me and those I love, aren't killed, or have to listen to their personal crap.
                                                                                                                                                                                           What are your thoughts on cellphones/texting?
Do you have any personal experiences like Spacey had? danrosin@drcounselling.com


Just a few notes from a book entitled "Veronica Decides To Die" by Paulo Coelho.

        Real love changes and grows with time and discovers new ways of expressing itself.

I thought there was a very interesting twist on the story of Adam and Eve in this book and so from the mind of Paulo Coelho:

If he (God) had not wanted Eve to eat the apple, why did he put the tree in the middle of the garden and not outside the walls of paradise? God could be accused of administrative negligence, because, in addition to planting the tree in the wrong place, he had failed to surround it with warnings and barriers, had failed to adopt even minimal security arrangements, and had thus exposed everyone to danger.

God it could also be accused of inducement to criminal activity, for he had pointed out to Adam and Eve the exact place where the tree was to be found. If he had said nothing, generation upon generation would have passed on this earth without anyone taking the slightest interest in the forbidden fruit, since the tree was presumably in a forest full of similar treats, and therefore of no particular value.

But God had proceeded quite differently. He had devised a rule and then found a way of persuading someone to break it, merely in order to invent punishment. He knew that Adam and Eve would become bored with perfection and would, sooner or later, test his patients. He set a trap, perhaps because he, Almighty God, was also bored with everything going so smoothly: if they had not eat the apple, nothing of any interest would have happened in the last few billion years.

An interesting mind and a very good read!

If in your reading you come across a gem or two please forward to me including name of article or book and author.     danrosin@drcounselling.com


It doesn't matter where you came from. All that matters is where you are going."- Brian Tracy


 Took in a coffee house concert on Sat. evening. And caught a group called The Heights. What a delightful experience they were. I greatly enjoyed their original music something I am not prone to doing-I enjoy the standards. What was special and a testament to their playing was that these young men held the attention of a crowd that was certainly over 60 and mostly pushing 70. Keep an eye out for these young fellows; they are definitely worth a look.  Dan


Cabernet Sauvignon
     Do you have feelings of inadequacy?
     Do you suffer from shyness?
     Do you sometimes wish you were more assertive?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, ask your doctor or pharmacist about Cabernet Sauvignon. Cabernet Sauvignon is the safe, natural way to feel better and more confident about yourself and your actions. It can help ease you out of your shyness and let you tell the world that you're ready and willing to do just about anything.

You will notice the benefits of Cabernet Sauvignon almost immediately and, with a regimen of regular doses, you can overcome any obstacles that prevent you from living the life you want to live.

Shyness and awkwardness will be a thing of the past and you will discover many talents you never knew you had. Stop hiding and start living.

Cabernet Sauvignon may not be right for everyone. Women who are pregnant or nursing should not use it. However, women who wouldn't mind nursing or becoming pregnant are encouraged to try it.

Side effects may include: Dizziness, nausea, vomiting, incarceration, loss of motor control, loss of clothing, loss of money, loss of virginity, delusions of grandeur, table dancing, headache, dehydration, dry mouth, and a desire to sing Karaoke and play all-night rounds of Strip Poker, Truth Or Dare, and Naked Twister.

Warnings:
· The consumption of Cabernet Sauvignon may make you think you are whispering when you are not.

· The consumption of Cabernet Sauvignon may cause you to tell your friends over and over again that you love them.

· The consumption of Cabernet Sauvignon may cause you to think you can sing.

· The consumption of Cabernet Sauvignon may create the illusion that you are tougher, smarter, faster and better looking than most people.

Please feel free to share this important information with as many people as you feel it may benefit!

Now, just imagine what you could achieve with a good Shiraz or Merlot...                          Thank you Kenn 


"A clear vision, backed by definite plans, gives you a tremendous feeling of confidence and personal power."-                                                                                                                                                           Brian Tracy



Workplace Stress  

Many Canadian workers say workplace stress has negatively affected them physically or psychologically, with one in five claiming it has limited their careers.

Physically, 53 per cent of working Canadians say they experience headaches, clenched jaws, indigestion, constipation or diarrhoea, increased perspiration, and fatigue or insomnia due to stress.

Psychologically, 55 per cent experience anxiety, irritability with coal-workers, defensiveness, anger, mood swings, and feelings of helplessness or of being trapped.

Behaviourally, 52 per cent say stress in the workplace causes them to be impatient, procrastinate, quick to argue, withdraw or isolate themselves from others, neglect responsibilities, and perform poorly.

Also, 30 per cent say stress has prevented them from being recognized for their contribution at work and 22 per cent believe it has prevented them from being moved up in their company.

Stephen Stein, a clinical psychologist states, the good news is, you can learn or improve your emotional skills...even in the presence of stress. If individuals monitor and interpret their emotions and the emotions of others, then apply that knowledge to better succeed in dealing with the world around them, they have a better chance of experiencing workplace success. A strong emotional intelligence can help build positive relationships with colleagues and improve performance- the ideal formula for workplace success.

I believe what Stein is getting at is, before you get all emotional and react to what is being said, you'd best really listen to what is being said and think about the emotional impact of your response.                   Eric Beauchesne


Road Rage-an Explanation!

The Canadian researcher Donald Hebb showed that a group of neurons that have fired together once are more likely to fire simultaneously in the future. This Hebbian principle has been expressed as "neurons that fire together wire together." The early emotional imprinting is encoded in the form of potential neuronal patterns: groups of nerve cells primed to fire together. Later in life, much to our surprise, we find that some minor stimulus, like being cut off in traffic, triggers some irrational rage, leaving us wondering what was that about?


$859 is the price at Vancouver's Steveston Pizza for the 12-inch Seenay pizza-reportedly the world's most expensive pizza. The dish features a "medley of tiger prawns, lobster ratatouille, smoked steelhead, Russian osetra caviar, snowed with Italian white truffles." The B. C. City was also the home to Canada's first pizza oven when the Penthouse Night Club imported one in the late 1950s.


Reader Response

Here's what my dad shared before he passed away:

1. Be yourself
2. Be honest
3. Do your best
4. Take care of your family
5. Treat people with respect
6. Be a good citizen
7. Follow your dreams

 We are all demonstrating a message to the world, and that message gets left here when we're gone. Something to think about. Brendon


Have a great week; after all you're in charge of it!
Don't get confused by the weather and start cleaning your golf clubs.

Newsletter: