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Newsletter Vol. # 47 That's how I see it!

Hello and welcome to this week's newsletter.

What you will find in this week's newsletter:
Digital Communication
First in a series of four articles on "Change"
Big 3&2--Managing Your Health
How about adding a little jazz to your Saturday?
Walking Relieves Depression
Exam-interesting questions, novel answers


Digital Communication

Dr. Stephen Franson in his blog makes an interesting point concerning cell phone usage and the integrity of your word in making commitments

I fear that this new Renaissance in communication has created a new dark age in commitment and personal integrity.

I am a big fan of the ready and easy communication afforded by my mobile. I admit that I have made the steady climb up the ladder of telecommunication offerings from a standard phone, to a blackberry and now an iPhone. I catch myself fingering the heat sensitive screen to check my mail more often than I thought I would. Heck, I even "text-message" regularly now. So please, do not dismiss my concerns as the irrelevant ranting of a technophobe. I love my cell phone.

The problem is the way we use them. I can't believe that I'm using this analogy, but, like the old saying goes, "Guns do not kill people; people kill people." Cellular technology in itself is not evil, but if we're not careful, it could promote the death of personal integrity.

I know this comment seems overly dramatic, but I'll suggest that there is a new communication dynamic that threatens to erode the very foundation of relationships-reliability.

In years past when plans were made, dates were set, times were agreed upon and destinations were decided. You would consider "the plan" an agreement between two or more people and the expectation was that there would be follow-through. Typically, the experience would match the plan; everyone who was physically able would show up on time, and at the place to do what everyone had agreed to do. It was nice. You would spend more time enjoying what you were doing then planning what to do instead.

Plans today have morphed into mere plastic suggestions as to what might happen if nothing else at all comes up between now and then.

We are now a microsecond away from altering an entire day with one phone call. We can change times, destinations, even participants, with an instant message. We can even cancel our plans entirely with 140-character text message. This drives me crazy.

People often rely on voicemail to delude the sting of accountability to a commitment. "Sorry, something just came up." No face-to-face apology. No visual feedback. No sense of disappointment. If 93% of communication is unspoken what are we actually saying with all of this digital exchange?

With every human quirk comes the opportunity to be extraordinary. So be mindful of your commitments--when you make them and how you keep them. Do not fall into the cyber-trap of making temporary plans with the intention of changing them as you go. This is a slippery slope. Create a reputation for making commitments and sticking to them. Be exceptional! By no means does this imply being rigid and inflexible. Flexibility is a critical character trait. The key is to be flexible when flexibility strengthens a situation.

Stand out in the crowd as a person who says that they'll be there, at this time to do that... And actually do it. Let your Yes be Yes.



Understanding our past doesn't really change anything unless we use that understanding to make new and better choices in the present


First in a series of four articles on Change

#1 Successful Change Requires Consciousness, Focus and Repetition

Changing one's self-how one thinks, feels, values or believes-can be very difficult to do. It can be even more difficult to maintain.

While sometimes desirable, an individual's ability to work toward "change" can feel extremely uncomfortable. It is much like forcing a right-handed person to use only their left hand. At the first sign of frustration or stress, the changes that have been made will likely be abandoned, and the individual will revert to old, familiar ways of doing things.

To be successful at changing ourselves-from being an angry person to being a calm one, or from being a self-centered person to one who really listens to others-we must remain highly motivated. To change, one requires a new vision of what things will look like after the changes have been instituted.

Change most often occurs under the following circumstances-when we feel safe; when the changes result in something better than what we currently have; when we realize that we can manage or accept the reactions of others to these changes; and when our self-esteem is high enough to overcome our fears of taking risks through change, the potential for failure, or embarrassment.

Maintaining what we have changed requires that we remain conscious of and focused on our goals. It requires many repetitions of the new behaviors-doing the new behaviors on purpose and repeatedly-if change is to be permanent.

If you're serious about changing your behavior, make a contract with the significant people in your life to help you monitor your progress!


The more you are "in charge" of your life, the less need you have to be in control of those around you.



The Big 3 Plus 2

In my mind the Big 3 (plus 2) in managing your health includes:

1. Networking - spending time with family, friends, and Community
2. Managing stress --Balanced Lifestyle (work - Play)
                                  --Able to set clear boundaries
                                  -- Understanding and practicing Assertiveness
                                  --Good communication skills (Listening and Speaking)
                                  --Consistent Exercise Program
                                  --Variety and spice/break the routines
                                  --Create a habit of positive thinking
3. Laughter - is not only fun and energizes us but it contributes significantly to our quality of life. Laughter raises the Serotonin and Dopamine levels which are our natural upper drugs.
4. Controlling Anger - is very much a health issue. Uncontrolled anger is toxic to self and others. Every time we get angry or stressed cells of the body get sloughed off prematurely. We take seconds off our life every time we get angry/stressed.
Anger can be controlled through self-discipline, improved self-esteem, and coming to the realization that being angry or under control is a choice. It doesn't matter what the other person does, only how I choose to respond. People can invite me, through their actions, to get angry but if I do get angry, it is my choice.
5. Welcome Change - change is inevitable! Embrace change - Don't sabotage it.


You don't change people; you inform them on how you think, feel, value, and believe and they decide if they want to change.



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                         "LiFe iS A LoT LiKE JAzz...iT's bEsT WhEN YOu iMProViSe"
                                                   - George Gerswin

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Walking Relieves Depression

     As a joke I designed and had printed a number of notepads that were like the prescription pads found in a medical doctor's office. However, instead of prescribing pills at the end of the session, I would write, "Purchase size 9 walking shoes." My clients would snicker but they understood - walk and get healthier or take pills.
     A new program began by Health Partners Medical Group (Indiana and Michigan) is where physicians are routinely prescribing pedometers for all patients they believe to be depressed. They encourage their patients to aim for 30 min. or more of moderate physical activity. The pedometers act as an incentive - keeping track of time and distance is a tangible motivator that people readily embrace. I use to give t-shirts and buttons but I like the pedometer idea better.
     We all know that exercise can work if done consistently. There are an abundance of studies to back the claims that exercise improves energy, relieves anxiety and stress, improves sleep, and elevates self-esteem.

That's how I see it!

Somebody talk to me about those wristbands I see on a great many people that keep track of the steps you take. If any of you have such a wristband give me some idea of how they work and how you see their value.



What would you give this student on this exam?

Q1. In which battle did Napoleon die? * His last battle

Q2. Where was the Declaration of Independence signed? * At the bottom of the page

Q3. River Ravi flows in which state? * Liquid

Q4. What is the main reason for divorce? * Marriage

Q5. What is the main reason for failure? * Exams

Q6. What can you never eat for breakfast? * Lunch & dinner

Q7. What looks like half an apple? * The other half

Q8. If you throw a red stone into the blue sea what it will become? * It will simply become wet

Q9. How can a man go eight days without sleeping ? * No problem, he sleeps at night.

Q10. How can you lift an elephant with one hand? * You will never find an elephant that has only one hand.

Q11. If you had three apples and four oranges in one hand and four apples and three oranges in other hand, what would you have ? * Very large hands

Q12. If it took eight men ten hours to build a wall, how long would it take four men to build it? * No time at all, the wall is already built.

Q13. How can you drop a raw egg onto a concrete floor without it cracking? *Any way you want, concrete floors are very hard to crack.


You know when I used to teach, a thousand years ago, I had a few students who were this clever and did answer test questions in this manner. They always did well in my class.


I would like to encourage you to have a great week, have some fun, get out to the EX, and the Jazz Festival begins this week and has a great line-up. I plan to attend both, maybe I'll see you there? How about a bike ride or a nice long walk?

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