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Newsletter Vol. # 50 That's how I see it!

Hello and welcome to the 50th edition (2016) of That's how I see it!
We have had a great summer-lots of golf, summer theatre, grandkids over for weekends, the highlight was when we celebrated our 50th anniversary (people came from all over to celebrate with us), it was a glorious 3 days.

People have all gone home, the leaves are falling in abundance, it's dark by 7 pm, and there is a tension to finish all the "summer jobs" around the house. Fall is here-lets enjoy it before...

This fall and winter - I'll be here and you'll be there (very deep) - why don't we agree to talk to each other over the next two seasons, using this newsletter. If you have an opinion, a favourite article you wrote or someone else did, a State of the Nation Address you have to get off your chest, send it in to me and we'll tell the world (well several hundred anyway).


What you will find in this week's newsletter:

Make the Time
Seasonal Effective Disorder
Cigarette Smoking
Book review


Make The Time!

If you ever attended one of my workshops or read my books, you have heard me state,
             Take care of yourself first, and then take care of others.
     The more you take care of self, the more you have to give others.
I don't see this attitude as self-centered, but rather one of self-care.

Someone once drew a caricature of me at the end of a workshop I facilitated. Under the picture were the words Ok wise guy now tell us how to find the time to do all this wellness stuff.  That's the rub isn't it? It's not that we don't know what to do - its not having the time to do it!
                    We don't have time-we make time!

Another factor that gets in our way of not doing more for ourselves is lack of drive. That is the commitment to consistently do what we know we need to do to remain in a healthy state. People will put in long hours at work, do lots (too much) for their kids but rarely think of their spouse and hardly ever of themselves. So just how do we "make" the time and make ourselves do what needs to be done to own that healthy lifestyle. Well, I say "Just do it!" (Nike stole this slogan from me). Just go to bed earlier, and get up earlier. Stop fussing about all the sleep your not getting. Morning exercise will produce more energy throughout the day than getting that extra hour of sleep. Chatelaine magazine - Karen Wright - puts in a few more details then I when it comes to solving this time-crunch problem.

* Figure out if you want to get up one or two hours earlier than usual and what you'll do during that time.
* Start with one or two days a week.
* Figure out how much sleep you really need and go to bed in enough time to get that much shut-eye.
* Place whatever clothes or items you'll need beside your bed the night before.
* When the alarm goes off, use whatever superhuman powers you have to sit up - once your vertical, the rest is easier.

If you have children and need help, consider expanding your support network.

* Adopt grandparents for your kids among elderly neighbours.
* Start a babysitting co-op with several nearby families.
* Create a toy sharing system, a book rotation or a garden watering schedule.
* Do a multi-house potluck or rotating dinner once a month.
* Create a girls/boys night group and rotate planning the event.
* Join with others to walk dog, jog or do strollercise.

I am very happy that Drinda and I raised our kids in an era when the wife staying at home was in vogue and financially possible. My heart and admiration go out to couples in society today who are killing themselves trying to do it all - raise a family, both work, get the toys, and still stay healthy. It is no wonder couples are having such a hard time staying connected (54% divorce rate in Canada). In my line of work I see families split apart by the frenetic pace and stress of their lives that eventually leads to the dissolution of their health and relationships.


In regards to getting depression under control: The" Big Pill" is lifestyle; the "Little Pill" is medication.


Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and Light

It is a fact that daylight has a profound effect on human mood and behaviour. Intensive light therapy is now being used in a growing number of clinics to fight off the depression that comes with dark winter days. It seems that the average person only gets 60 to 90 minutes a day of natural light. Artificial lights just don't cut it because they lack the full spectrum (violet, blue, green, yellow, orange, and red) of the colours of the rainbow.

Researchers believe that the mood-lifting effects of phototherapy seem to be traceable to light taken in through the eyes/retina and not through the skin. People who are victims of SAD often feel fine in the spring and summer, but when the days grow shorter, they become irritable, depressed, antisocial, and they eat and sleep more than usual. This is more than just a mild funk, it is a serious clinical depression. Many experience dramatic improvement when treated with daily doses of high-intensity artificial light that mimics natural light.

Artificial light can be very helpful but nothing beats the natural outdoors and sunlight, so it might not be a bad idea to start each day, outdoors, with a walk.


Infidelity can lead to a wake up, a shake up, or a break up.


Are cigarettes still the health concern they once were? Apparently so!

Cigarette Smoking

Despite numerous campaigns against smoking-which has had some notable victories-the smoking rate among American adults has not fallen significantly in the last two decades. Nearly 25% still smoke according to Michael Eriksen of the Centres For Disease Control And Prevention. Smoking rates did decrease dramatically after 1965, when 44% of Americans smoked, but the last decade has seen little progress. Why? Nicotine is very addictive-some hard-core smokers just can't quit. And, tragically the young just keep lighting up, filling the ranks after other smokers quit or die.

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Who is influenced by are those cheesy ads showing smiling, sporty women lighting up? Apparently, many women, that's who! A new Harvard school of Public Health analysis of tobacco-company documents shows that cigarette makers created slimmer, lower-tar, and less stinky smokes to hook female puffers. They even experimented with adding appetite suppressants.


Rule for heated discussions: "There can only be one crazy person in the room at a time."


Just a reminder:

If you would like a copy of my second book, Communication and Relationships for free - to review, please call me or email me. I am afraid that you will be on the hook for the postage ($6) if I have to mail it to you.

Dan rosin, 178 Elm St. Wpg. R3M 3P2
Pick up is free! We can make arrangements
Telephone 299-9399 or email me at danrosin@drcounselling.com

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