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Newsletter Vol. # 53 That's how I see it!

 Newsletter Vol. # 53     That's how I see it!

I am just back from a very fast trip to the US, Grand Forks to be exact. I spent last Saturday, attending a UND Homecoming breakfast- it has been 50 years since I graduated from that fine university. I walked the campus and visited some old buildings where I took classes. I also visited some of the places I stayed when I lived off campus. I felt sad that 50 years had passed so quickly and I wasn't that young cocky kid anymore. The students all looked to be 12 and I most definitely was out of place at our old drinking establishments.


 FAMILY OF ORIGIN AND WELLNESS

Wellness is the organized programs, the cost savings, the aerobic
dance, jazzercize or what your nutrition intake was during the course of this
week. At the very heart of Wellness is the individual's personal self-esteem,
self-love, and self-responsibility. Often members of 'systems' see the value in
Wellness as programming and demand elaborate paraphernalia and
equipment that is often associated with good Wellness programs. But
programming and equipment is not the key to wellness. The real key is the
individuals' responsibility to themselves: their own commitment, their own
realization and understanding that to have a full and vibrant life, they need to
be healthy and, that is a personal choice.
Everything we do and think and feel has an impact on our health. Bernie
Siegel in his book, Love, Medicine and Miracles says, "the body responds
to the mind's message." Therefore if we are going to be a healthy, well
person, we need to understand, the impact these messages the mind sends to
the body, are understood. We need to be sure that the repetitive messages the
mind sends internally to the body are positive. In many individuals, there
are many messages and beliefs that are anti-health and when followed, result
in ill health for the individual. These messages aren't as obvious as one might
think: they are very subtle and are introduced as part of one's learning system
and so we come to accept them as being truth. Examples would be: 'we can
have fun when the work is done'; 'when in doubt work harder'; 'if you want
something done, do it yourself; 'if it is worth doing it is worth doing well'.
These statements have their origin in the individual's history and are taught to
them as if they were the truth and should be followed no matter what the
personal price. Extremism, even though positive in intent, can lead to some
very unhealthy end results. We need to be aware of how the mind can either
help us or harm us and to practice in a very conscious and balanced way the
positive messages of a healthy and wellness lifestyle.
When we look at and examine our personal Wellness we really have to look
at our early family life and the profound effect that these experiences had on
us. As a result of those early experiences we have developed our own internal
belief systems about ourselves and the world around us. Humans because of
their early experiences with the receiving and giving of strokes, often grow
up to be stroke-starved and feel a constant need for approval and attention.
Unfortunately, quite early in our lives we have learned the rules for what is
called 'stroke economy'. That is, to have people in a constant state of stroke
deprivation. We learned it and saw it modelled in our families of origin. In
this way the original family had a great deal of impact and influence in our
lives on how we feel, think and act as adults. What we learn about feelings,
about fear, sadness, about our culture, work, and play, all begins in this family of
origin.


 If your best shots are the practice swing and the 'gimme putt', you might wish to reconsider this game.


Reader Response

In your last newsletter (June) you asked "Somebody talk to me about those wristbands I see on a great many people that keep track of the steps you take. If any of you have such a wristband give me some idea of how they work and how you see their value".
Well I got one for Christmas last year. It has helped me to become much more aware of moving my body. It lets me know when I have been sitting too long and helps me choose the path that requires more steps. It will also let me know when it appears I am moving less than usual in a day.  When I reach my daily goal it lets me know which is so reinforcing.  There are also 'badges' for the completion of so many steps (I recently got my 1,000,000 steps badge).  There is the possibility of connecting with people and competing/sharing progress but this isn't something I am doing.  The other aspect of it I love is that it tracks your sleep so you know how much you are sleeping and the depth of your sleep.
I would not suggest it, however, for those with eating disorders, OCD or compulsive exercise.  Individuals who struggle with these areas can become obsessed with meeting targets in such a way that I believe could potentially fuel their disorder as opposed to being of benefit.              Annie


 Golf is the only sport where the most feared opponent is you.


Did You Know?

Did you know the following list of items could be brought across the Canada-U.S. border without paying duty? (Canadian taxes always apply):
-almost anything made in the United States or Mexico
-toys, including puzzles, trains, dolls, action figures
-videogames
-cell phones
-antiques
-original art
-downhill skis and boots
-toasters, electric irons, bread makers
-artificial Christmas trees, billiard tables, chess set
-office furniture, books, glassware
-unset diamonds, pearls and precious stones
-SLR and instant cameras, golf bags

The Canadian Border Service Agency telephone-
1-800-461-9999 for more information.


 Golf is like marriage, if you take yourself too seriously it won't work, and both are expensive.


Two elderly ladies had been friends for many decades. Over
the years, they had shared all kinds of activities and
adventures. Lately, their activities had been limited to
meeting a few times a week to play cards.
 One day, they were playing cards when one looked at the
other and said, 'Now don't get mad at me ... I know
we've been friends for a long time, but I just can't
think of your name! I've thought and thought, but I
can't remember it. Please tell me what your name is.
 Her friend glared at her for at least three minutes; she
just stared and glared at her. Finally she said, 'How
soon do you need to know?'


The best wood in most amateurs' bags is the pencil.



I still haven't taken my golf bag in from the car-still hoping for one more game before the snow flies. Have a great week.



            Making your partner #1 in your life is insurance-
                       For a vastly improved relationship (C&R)

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