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Newsletter Vol. # 54 That's how I see it!

Cluttering Up Your Mind

Researchers estimate the average person has 60,000 thoughts per day--most of them repetitive and useless. This steady loop of worries, fantasies, judgments and memories running on our cerebral sprockets can make for fascinating theatre--providing we know how to turn off the projector (before we get sick).                                                                 Carolin Vesely

So just what can we do to combat what Eckhart Tolle calls "monkey mind"-- the constant over stimulation of our minds. We need to take time out to exercise, to network with positive people, to practice breathing/energy/and specific exercise regime (Qi-gong, Tai Chi, meditation), to laugh more, and to find those activities that are fulfilling to us as individuals, then we can begin to relax and feel less stressed.

In this extremely busy society in which we expect so much from ourselves, and so much is going on in our lives, it is my belief that we had better have a "Plan": a "Health Plan" that is designed to include choices that break the hold on our bodies of the sameness of everyday living in an extremely stressful world. That is, every day our lives should contain some form of exercise, relaxation and laughter.



Water

Don't assume that bottled water is safer or more healthful than tap water. About half of North Americans now drink bottled waters, which are the fastest-growing sales of any beverage. A recent study comparing 57 bottled waters with samples of tap water from Cleveland found that the tap water consistently had lower bacterial counts than the bottled samples (only three bottles were as pure as the tap water). This doesn't mean that bottled waters contained enough bacteria to cause illness, but enough to raise a red flag. Some earlier studies had also found that bottled waters are often out of line with the standards set for the US tap water. Many bottled waters are, in fact, merely repackaged municipal water.

If you have young children and they drink only bottled water, make sure they use fluoride toothpaste and/or a fluoride rinse. The Cleveland study mentioned above confirmed the fact that with only a few exceptions, bottled waters contain little or no fluoride. Since fluoride helps protect against tooth decay, it's doubly important that your kids get proper dental care if they drink only bottled water.

Jenny Lee in her article entitled, All Water Is Not Created Equal states,
by definition, mineral or spring water cannot come from a tap. These waters must come from an underground source and be an altered, although carbon dioxide and ozone can be added to preserve freshness.

So, to reiterate, spring water by definition cannot be filtered. Once you filter the water, you're not allowed to call it spring water anymore. Ms. Lee goes on to say, if you like the taste of bottled water, fine, but in North America where the water supply is safe, there really isn't strong evidence of any health benefits at all in drinking bottled water. Indeed bottled water may contain a good deal more bacteria than tap water.

Health Canada reports that bacteria levels in bottled water increase quickly to maximum safe levels after six weeks of unrefrigerated shelf life. Bacteria are everywhere. Tap water is safe because it is chlorinated at source, --bottled water isn't.


Canada Stress Statistics
The average direct cost of absenteeism is $3,550 per employee per year - Watson Wyatt Canadian Staying @ Work Survey

* The annual cost to Canadian companies due to stress-related disorders is $12 billion
* Absenteeism due to stress has increased by over 300% since 1995?- Statistics Canada
* 51% of Canadian employees experience a great deal of stress at work. 25% of these employees have been physically ill from workplace stress - Aventis Healthcare Survey 2002
* 75% to 90% of all visits to primary care physicians are for stress-related complaints
* up to 80% of on-the-job accidents are stress-related
* 40% of job turnover is due to stress - American Institute Of Stress
* Stress accounts for $26 billion in medical and disability payments and $95 billion in lost productivity per year
* Over 50% of lost work days are stress related which keeps about 1 million people per day from attending work- Occupational Health and Safety news/National Council on Compensation Insurance (USA)
* Workers who must take time off work because of stress, anxiety, or a related disorder will be off the job for about 20 days - Bureau of Labor Statistics
* 75% of employees believe the worker has more on-the-job stress than a generation ago - Princeton Survey Research Association
* Problems at work are more strongly associated with health complaints than are any other life stressor, more so than even financial problems or family problems - St.Paul Fire and Marine Insurance Co.

Employees in extreme workplace stress conditions suffer from: more than triple the rate of cardiovascular problems; over five times the rate of colorectal cancer; up to three times the rate of back pain. - Health Canada.




Ron Chestna, 89 years of age, was stopped by police around 2 a.m. and was asked where he was going at that time of night.
Ron replied, "I'm on my way to a lecture about alcohol abuse and the effects it has on the human body, as well as smoking and staying out late."
 
The officer asked, "Really? Who's giving that lecture at this time of night?"
 
Ron replied, "That would be my wife."



Assertiveness Is the Goal

Assertiveness is the ability to express one's feelings and assert one's rights while respecting the feeling and rights of others. Assertive communication is appropriately direct, open and honest, and clarifies one's needs to the other person.

Sometimes people confuse aggressiveness with assertiveness, seeing that both types of behaviour involve standing up for one's rights and expressing one's needs. The key difference between the two styles is that individuals behaving assertively will express themselves in the ways that respect the other person. They assume the best about people, respect themselves, and think, "win-win," and try to compromise.

In contrast, individuals behaving aggressively will tend to employ tactics that are disrespectful, manipulative, demeaning, or abusive. They make negative assumptions about the motives of others and think in retaliatory terms, or they don't think of the other person's point of view at all. They win at the expense of others, and create unnecessary conflict.

Passive individuals don't know how to adequately communicate their feelings and needs to others. They tend to fear conflict so much that they let their needs go unmet and keep their feelings secret in order to "keep the peace". They let others win while they lose out; they then feel resentment or self-loathing.

So what are the benefits of assertiveness? Well, assertive people tend to have fewer conflicts in their dealings with others, which translates into much less stress in their lives. They get their needs met (less stressing over unmet needs), and help others get their needs met too. Having stronger, more supportive relationships virtually guarantees that, in a bind, they have people that they can count on.

Aggressive people tend to alienate others and create unnecessary stress. Those on the receiving end of aggressive behaviour tend to feel attacked and often avoid the aggressive individual. Over time, people who behave aggressively tend to have a string of failed relationships and little social support. They also fail to understand that this is frequently related to their own behaviour. Ironically, they often feel like victims, too.

Passive people aim to avoid conflict by avoiding communication about their needs and feelings, but this behaviour damages relationships in the long run. They may feel like victims, but continue to avoid confrontation, becoming increasingly angry until, when they finally do say something, it comes out aggressively. The other party doesn't even know there's a problem until the formerly passive individual virtually explodes! This leads to hard feelings, weaker relationships, and more passivity.
                                                                                 (Elizabeth Scott, About.Com)


The amount of spark in a relationship is directly proportionate to the amount of work done on behalf of the relationship by both participants. However, whoever has the least amount of feeling-spark-needs to work the hardest!

C&R-Communication & Relationships a new/old book by Dr. Dan Rosin


THE GRANT & WILTON COFFEE HOUSE

                 Presents

Cat Jahnke and Guest Performer Skylar Bouchard

Saturday November 12, 2015 7:30 pm, 1077 Grant Avenue

CAT JAHNKE

For over 10 years, Cat has built a loyal fan base across Canada, touring regularly and releasing 4 albums. And her hard work has been noticed, garnering her a nomination for "Contemporary Vocalist of the Year" at the Canadian Folk Music Awards in 2011, second place in the 2013 International Song writing Competition, and funding from arts associations like FACTOR and Manitoba Film and Sound.

 

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