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Newsletter Vol. #73 Thats how I see it!

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The Populist Phenomena

Politics is really kind of an afterthought for me. Yes I get out and vote. I was a campaign manager for a liberal candidate 30 years ago, but haven't paid much attention since. I know the heads of the various political parties of Canada but that's really the extent of my political savvy. So when Scott Gilmore, MacLean's magazine writer (April, 2017), throws out the word "populism" I say, uh, what's that?

Apparently at the heart of any populist movement is the idea that the established political system and supporters have to go and the "people" will be back in charge. The bureaucrats, policies (particularly those having to do with immigration), and systems that were in place have to be struck down and democracy is destabilized. It seems that one area that populists almost always target is: immigration, minorities, and foreigners.

It appears at that this time, this "populism" movement is growing globally- Europe, Asia, Africa, Philippines, and United States- Donald Trump being the populist's poster boy.

Scott Gilmore in his article entitled, "Populist Goes The World", says, no, we won't see a similar rise in populism here in Canada. However, he makes an interesting point, and the one I want this article to make, is that when the foreign born population of a country is more than 22% of the population of that country, support for anti-immigration parties rises and a populist backlash may be an unavoidable. This is not because newcomers bring crime or undermine our democratic institutions, but because the native citizens, whether they are Canadians or Australians or Americans, instinctively feel threatened by newcomers. Perhaps the experiences add up- new faces on TV, new clothes in the street, new music on the radio-until the average person reaches a tipping point and pushes back. After all, a fear of strangers is wired into our brains, an instinct that kept us alive in our tribal past.

So it seems that when the existing population of the country feels that too many foreigners are let into their country they have less of a tendency to vote for the established parties and look for a populist candidate who promises to stop the flow of immigrants. I guess like Trump choosing to close the borders and promising to stop the flow of immigrants from targeted countries. America for those already in America.

The question then becomes, are we letting too many immigrants into Canada, (we are currently at approximately 20 percent), and will the "populist" phenomena become a reality in the next few years? Mmm, interesting!

That's how we see it!


A time might come in your life when you feel you're really against the wall. You don't have the resources, money, love or satisfying job to see the purpose or obtain satisfaction with the life you are living. That might be a very good time to consider: making some changes, taking some risks, or      doing things differently, so as to feel more fulfilled and alive again. In fact it might be said that this is one of those times, "You can't afford not to change."


Cognitive Therapy

Cognitive therapy in regards to stress, rests on the premise that it is not simply the events in our lives that cause us distress (-) or eustress (+), but the way we think about or perceive those events that colours our experiences and can lead to a distressed, upsetting response, or a calm demeanour. To reiterate, it is how we think about something or an event with resulting cognitive distortions that determines the kind of stress we feel (distress or eustress).

The therapy of changing the internal dialogue is known as Cognitive Restructuring and is a process of recognizing, challenging and changing cognitive distortions and negative thought patterns.


Pt. 2 Depression

Is It My Fault I am Depressed?   

Q. My family seems to think it's my fault that I'm depressed.  They think that if only I got out of my room more often and tried to change my life that I'd feel better.  Is it really my fault that I'm depressed?  Sometimes I think they must be right.  Maybe if I just tried harder I could get over my depression?  Other times though it seems like it's all I can do to just get through the day.  I don't think I can try any harder than I am.
A. It is very important for you to realize that depression is not your fault.  Depression occurs because of an imbalance in important mood-regulating chemicals in your brain called neurotransmitters.  Just like a person with diabetes cannot "try harder" to make their pancreas produce more insulin, a person with depression cannot will their brain to produce more neurotransmitters.

For someone who does not suffer from clinical depression, your family's recommendations may actually be helpful.  Those with mild or situational depression may be able to snap themselves out of it by simply getting out more or making some easy changes in their lives.  However, if you are feeling depressed or you no longer experience pleasure in things you once enjoyed and these feelings have been going on continually for more than two weeks, it is very possible that you will need to seek professional help to get yourself on an even keel again, especially if you have several other symptoms of depression, such as:
-Changes in weight or appetite
-Problems with sleep
-Tiredness or lack or energy
-Feelings of guilt or worthlessness
-Problems with thinking or concentration
-Thoughts of death or suicide

One of the ways a mental health professional can help you is by prescribing medications called antidepressants.  Antidepressants can alleviate depression by causing more of various neurotransmitters - such as serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine - to be available in the brain for use.  Different antidepressants affect neurotransmitters in different ways, so certain antidepressants may be more effective than others for any given individual.

Another popular treatment option, either on its own or in combination with antidepressant medications, is psychotherapy.  Psychotherapy, also known as talk therapy, can be useful in helping depression because it teaches patients to recognize how their thoughts and behaviours may be contributing to their depression.  When combined with medications and exercise, these may be the most effective approaches to prevent a recurrence of depression.

Sometimes the guilt and feelings of worthlessness that go along with depression can make it very easy to blame ourselves for how we are feeling - especially if our friends and family are blaming us already - but this doesn't mean that it's your fault for feeling this way.  Depression is a real illness just like any other and there are effective treatments that can help you feel better.  You don't have to suffer in silence or feel guilty that you aren't trying hard enough to get well.  Sometimes just making it through the day is the best that we can do when we are feeling depressed.

(Thanks Wayne--keep it positive)                                (Nancy Schimelpfening)


I won't be less than who I am and change to who you want me to be just because you have low self-esteem.


The World is Mine...Author unknown
 
              Today, upon a bus, I saw a very beautiful woman and wished I were as    beautiful.
              When suddenly she rose to leave, I saw her hobble down the aisle.
              She had one leg and used a crutch.  But as she passed, she passed a smile.
              Please forgive me when I whine.  I have two legs; the world is mine.
 
              I stopped to buy some candy.  The lad who sold it had such charm.
              I talked with him, he seemed so glad.  If I were late, it'd do no harm.
              And as I left, he said to me, "I thank you, you've been so kind.
              It's nice to talk with folks like you.  You see," he said, "I'm blind."
              Please forgive me when I whine.  I have two eyes; the world is mine.
 
              Later while walking down the street, I saw a child I knew.
              He stood and watched the others play, but he did not know what to do.
              I stopped a moment and then I said, "Why don't you join them, Dear?"
              He looked ahead without a word.  I forgot, he couldn't hear.
              Please forgive me when I whine.  I have two ears; the world is mine.
 
              With feet to take me where I'd go.  With eyes to see the sunset's glow.
              With ears to hear what I'd know.
             Please forgive me when I whine.  I've been blessed indeed, the world is mine.
 
 If this poem makes you feel thankful, please forward it to your friends.
After all, it's just a simple reminder that we have so much to be thankful for!
                                                                                                                                                    Thanks Jake


This relationship isn't a test to see how much you will do for me, it is a work in progress to see how much we can do for each other.


MAXQ PRODUCTIONS PRESENTS: 'THE FIRST PILLAR'

A PLAY BY GILLES MESSIER

A thought-provoking mix of drama, comedy, and science fiction, 'The First Pillar' follows a team of researchers as they realize a centuries-old dream: creating artificial intelligence. But no sooner is this brand-new consciousness born, a series of bizarre events sends the team on a collision course with the unknown at the intersection of science and faith.

The show will run on the 18th, 19th, and 20th of August, 2017, at MTYP's Richardson Hall. Doors open at 6PM, and curtain is at 7. Tickets are $10 and will be available soon; in the meantime they can be reserved by emailing gilles@gillesmessier.ca or by phone at (204) 396-0176.

The play contains some profanity and mature themes, so is suitable for ages 16+.


Now that I am older, here is what I have discovered:

1. I started out with nothing, and I still have most of it.

2. My wild oats have turned into prunes and all-bran
 
3. I finally got my head together; now my body is falling apart.
 
4. If all is not lost, where is it?

5. It is easier to get older than wiser

 6. Some days you're the windshield; some days you're the bug.
 
7. I wish the buck stopped here; I sure could use a few.
 
8. The only time the world beats a path to your door is when you're in the
bathroom.

9. It's not hard to meet expenses ... they're everywhere.

10. I spend a lot of time thinking about the hereafter ....I go somewhere  to get something and then wonder what I'm here after.


                                 
I hope you had a wonderful Canada Day, I did. Give your family a big hug and be extremely thankful you are Canadian-I know I am!

Starting next week, be on the lookout for the "Midweek" for the summer.


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