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Newsletter Vol. #93 Thats How I See It!

I have it on good authority that some of you are sharing this newsletter with friends as far away as England, Scotland, Ireland, New Zealand, and Croatia!  Well! We will just have to encourage a continuation of this practise. It's really ok to share the newsletter!

Thanks again to Shapes Fitness Centre, Pembina, for allowing me to visit their premises and to speak with their members. We now have a whole new flock, an entire gaggle, a whole new herd! We have a lot of new people receiving the newsletter and willing to support the release of my book when that launch happens. Thank you, Shapes and your members.

An opinion was expressed to me that in this era of technology-hurry up and cut to the chase-that the "That's How I See It!" newsletter was too long! People won't take time to read it all. I suppose that's a valid criticism; sometimes it is long.
Is it too long?
Do I try to pack too much of what I call variety, into each newsletter?
I thought people would read what they were interested in and simply pass on the rest. Apparently not-- If it looks too long it won't even be opened. Is this true?
Please give me some feedback on what you would like (content, length) in the newsletter for it to be more relevant. danrosin@drcounselling.com


For those of you new to the "That's How I See it!" newsletter:
bluelight is the name of the group I perform with. We do jazz, contemporary, but mostly the "American Songbook"- Cole Porter, Rogers & Hart, Jerome Kern, George Gershwin, and others. The group has been together for about seven years and we rehearse every Tuesday or whenever we have a quorum. Barry Dunford, Al Popowich, Randy Joyce, and Bob Parker are very busy people, so getting together is sometimes hit and miss. However, we are slowly building up a repertoire of songs that has the bluelight stamp on them-Barry makes sure of that.

What this group means to me is a great sense of fulfillment! It is working through a piece of music and seeing the finished product that gives me a high unlike my day job, where I assist others to reach their goals and aspirations. It's interesting, in my job as a counsellor/therapist -  when I do a good job and I am no longer needed, in essence, I get fired! Music, on the other hand, allows me to work things out - there is a Beginning where the piece of music gets introduced and is either accepted or rejected by the group; a Middle where repetition and mistakes are encouraged because it means there is experimentation going on; and an End where we have worked out the song's form, concluded the arrangement and now it's practise and honing.
I believe that it is imperative that people have variety/activities/relationships - things that fulfill them, and give them respite from the sameness of their everyday lives.   Dan

A healthy fulfilled life is generally a balanced life!

Catch "bluelight" at: Wilton Coffee House 
                          Saturday, March 17, 2018
   Tickets: $17 | Advance $15 Tel: (204) 488-0207 | (204) 895-1719
                                1077 Grant Avenue
                         Doors @7:00pm, Concert @ 7:30pm


A Bit on Stress 

     To me, the most interesting thing about stress is that it is not an entity but a perception. The language used to describe stress often makes it seem like it is a real thing, such as, "This job is so stressful", or "She stresses me out". Stress is a perception and everyone's is different. What may be one person's challenge may be another person's stressor.
     In our present society it seems that we are perpetually invited to feel the need to be "on"; that is our "fight or flight" response is stuck in the "on" position. We are caught in a vicious circle between what the pressure of living really "is", and what the media and society present as the ideal existence. We should be happy we have so much!
     The effects of stress - real or perceived - affect our bodies (and brains) and cause changes in the way we think, feel, behave, relate. This perpetual state of stress we live in affects us in different ways: depression, anxiety, addiction, dysfunctional relationships, and low-level unhappiness.
     We have a tremendous amount of burnout in our society today. A big reason for the burnout is because we choose to live such intense lifestyles. Our nervous system is totally over stimulated and so finds it difficult to deal with "change", which is a constant in our lives. Our natural response to stress is "fight or flight" which is an appropriate response for avoiding saber-toothed tigers, but not for life in the

21st century.  Dan


STRESS: REVISITED
 
Stress is often a forgotten factor when it comes to staying healthy. Faced with the demands of families, jobs, hobbies and financial problems, we try to ignore the stress in our lives. Indeed some of us even claim to thrive in stressful situations, but sooner or later stress catches up with us. That's why controlling stress is truly an important part of staying healthy.

What is stress and why is it harmful? As the body's natural adaptive response to trauma, stress can be triggered by a variety of events. When faced with a stressful situation, heart rate and blood pressure increase. This "fight/flight" response evolves from our ancestors' need to escape or engage a predator or competitor. The problem today is that although we are dealt dozens of stressful situations daily like traffic jams, malfunctioning fax machines, demanding clients, students, bosses and children, we rarely have the option of either fighting or fleeing. Instead, we stay put and ingest the tension. Not surprisingly, the internal pressure builds up until something gives. We feel anger, irritability, depression, anxiety or an inability to cope. Headaches, muscle tension, stomach aches and fatigue appear. Left unchecked, stress can result in a life threatening illness.

Sound or feel familiar? It should. According to a survey conducted by the Centre for Disease Control and Prevention, 50% of North Americans reported having suffered from stress in the two weeks prior to the survey. 40.6% said that stress had adversely impacted their health in the past year. Unfortunately, few stress sufferers know how to adopt the coping mechanisms that will help them live happier and healthier lives.
The real key to stress reduction and disease prevention lies in relieving tension in both the body and mind, according to Herbert Benson, MD, Director of the Mind and Body Medical Institute at Harvard Medical School and author of "Timeless Healing: The Power and Biology of Beliefs". To this end, many experts have employed a highly effective form of meditation called "Mindfulness" to help patients relax and resolve their stress. According to Benson, we can consciously elicit a relaxation response through mindfulness that is in direct contrast to our "fight
or flight" response. By itself, this relaxed response can help calm jangled nerves. Coupled with a mindful walk, it hits stress with an especially strong one-two mind-body punch. But who has time for relaxing walks. You do. Make time!

I would like to remind you that there are dozens of methods for dealing with stress, and all of them depend on one thing - making time for yourself. Vocational, recreational and spiritual pursuits are some of the best ways to balance daily tensions, solely because they require quiet time during which you can first gain perspective and then identify and quell your sources of
stress.

So whether you choose to walk, volunteer, pray, paint or fly fish, the act of carving out time each day is the first step toward managing the stress in your life. Only then can you be truly happy and healthy.  Dan


You Know You Need A Workout When...

YOU KNOW YOU NEED A WORKOUT WHEN ...

YOU WALK PAST A CEMETERY AND TWO GUYS WITH
SHOVELS COME RUNNING AFTER YOU.

YOU WALK PAST A CEMETARY AND TWO GUYS WITH SHOVELS COME RUNNING AFTER YOU.

YOU ARE. AT THE ZOO AND KIDS START FEEDING YOU
PEANUTS.

YOU GO SWIMMING AND GET HIT BY A HARPOON.

YOU GET STUCK BETWEEN THE "GOLDEN ARCHES".

YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER NEEDS A WIDE-ANGLE LENS.
 
YOUR OFFICE CHAIR HAS DEVELOPED STRETCH MARKS.
 
YOU GO TO A WEIGHT REDUCTION PROGRAM AND THE
INSTRUCTOR IMMEDIATELY ORDERS A NEW MERCEDES.
 
YOU GET WINDED PLAYING "PAC-MAN".
 
YOU GO SKY DIVING AND THE PARACHUTE DOESN'T
SLOW YOU DOWN.
 
YOUR IDEA OF AEROBICS IS HEAVY BREATING.

THE CHAIR GETS UP WHEN YOU DO.
 
YOUR INSURANCE. AGENT OFFERS YOU A GROUP RATE.
 
YOUR DESIGNER JEANS ARE BY ORSON WELLES.

YOU'RE LYING ON THE BEACH AND TWO GUYS FROM
GREEN PEACE TRY TO THROW YOU BACK IN.



We've all had this article sent to us but I think it is worth repeating.
Stress-glass of water
A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience with a raised glass of water. Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, 'half empty or half full?'... She fooled them all .... "How heavy is this glass of water?", she inquired with a smile.
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied , "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it." 
 "If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm."

"If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an Ambulance. In each case it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "And that's the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."

"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden - holding stress longer and better each time practiced."


So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night... Pick them up tomorrow.

1 * Accept the fact that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue!

2 * Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.

3 * Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.

4 * Drive carefully... It's not only cars that can be recalled by their Maker.

5 * If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

6 * If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.

7 * It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.

8 * Never buy a car you can't push.

9 * Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.

10 * Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.

11 * Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.

12 * The 2nd mouse gets the cheese.

13 * When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.

14 * Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.

16 * Some mistakes are too much fun to make only once.

17 * We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.

18 * A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

19 * Have an awesome day and know that someone has thought about you today.

AND MOST IMPORTANTLY

20 *Save the earth..... It's the only planet with chocolate...as far as we know!!!!                                                             Thanks Jake


Have a great week!

 

 

 

 

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