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Newsletter Vol. #109 That's How I See It!

 

 "The reason women don't play football is because

12 of them would never wear the same outfit in public."

                                                       -- Phyllis Diller


 What’s on Tap:

Done with the free books; Trump support; Smart Ass Answer; Defining Distress; Wow-What a Guy!; Arthritis; Need that testimonial.


 Just a reminder to all you folks who are new to the “That’s How I See It!” newsletter, if you want to see the last 3-4 editions, (or the last 200), go to www.drcounselling.com (click on) /Navigation/Newsletters/2018 Newsletters.


 Okay! We are done giving away free books (Dec. 2)! (One of the last stops is at Ami’s Falafel Restaurant, 1101 Corydon Ave., on Sunday, November 25, 2018.)


 The official launch of “Communication & Relationships" will take place on Wednesday evening, February 27, 2019 at McNally Robinson (specifics to follow). Please mark this date on your calendar!

 I will be sending out more specifics about the “Launch", as we get closer to the February date. I will also be sending you a specific paragraph that you can forward to your social media contacts as written, or edit as you see fit.


 If you have enjoyed, found useful, been entertained or helped in some small way by the newsletter or by “Communication & Relationships”, please let me know (Reader Response) and forward your comments on to your friends.


 In the past, some prominent psychologists have explained President Donald Trump’s unwavering support by alluding to a well-established psychological phenomenon known as the “Dunning-Kruger effect.” The effect is a type of cognitive bias, where people with little expertise or ability assume they have superior expertise or ability. This overestimation occurs as a result of the fact that they don’t have enough knowledge to know they don’t have enough knowledge. This simple but loopy concept has been demonstrated dozens of times in well-controlled psychology studies and in a variety of contexts.                   Thanks Ed


 SMART ASS ANSWER

 A truck driver was driving along the freeway and noticed a sign that read: Low Bridge Ahead. Before he knows it, the bridge is right in front of him and his truck gets wedged under it. Cars are backed up for miles. Finally a police car comes up. The cop gets out of his car and walks to the truck driver, puts his hands on his hips and says, 'Got stuck, huh?' The truck driver says, 'No, I was delivering this bridge and I ran out of gas.’


 Defining Distress

 We often use the terms "worry," "stress" and "anxiety" interchangeably, but they aren't the same. Each has unique qualities and being able to identify which one is plaguing us will help us better address it. Registered psychologist, Kristin Buhr, a director at the North Shore Stress & Anxiety Clinic in North Vancouver and co-author of The Worry Workbook, breaks down the differences.

 Worry is a negative thought you have about an uncertainty in life. Worries tend to focus on the assumption that something negative will come from future events or from the outcomes of occurrences that happened in the past.

 Stress involves your reaction to pressures placed on you. You feel spread too thinly or are overwhelmed because life is demanding too much of your limited time, energy or some other personal resource. While worries are thoughts, stress is a feeling.

 Anxiety is your mental and physiological response to a perceived threat. It's like the body's smoke detector-it senses danger and signals your body to rev up to deal with it. While worry takes place only in the mind, anxiety can have physical effects, like speeding up your heart rate. Worry can, however, trigger anxiety when your mind perceives imaginary “what ifs” as real threats.


 I will personally challenge anyone who wants to get rid of fighting (in the NHL) to a fight.                           Brian Burke


 Wow - what a guy! '

 Chief Clarence Louie of Osoyoos, BC was addressing First Nations in Fort McMurray, AB.

While speaking to a large aboriginal conference, some of the attendees, including a few who held high office, straggled in. “I can't stand people who are late”, he said into the microphone. “Indian Time doesn't cut it.” Some giggle, but no one is quite sure how far he is going to go. 

Just sit back and listen: “My first rule for success is Show up on time. My No. 2 rule for success is follow Rule No. 1. If your life sucks, it's because you suck. Quit your sniffling. Join the real world. Go to school, or get a job. Get off welfare. Get off your butt.” He pauses, seeming to gauge whether he dare, then he does.

 ”People often say to me, ‘How you doin'?” “Geez, I'm working with Indians; what do you think?” Now they are openly laughing ... applauding. Clarence Louie is everything that was advertised and more.

 “Our ancestors worked for a living”, he says. “So should you.” He is, fortunately, aboriginal himself. If someone else stood up and said these things - the white columnist standing there with his mouth open, for example - you'd be seen as a           racist. Instead, Chief Clarence Louie is seen, increasingly, as one of the most interesting and innovative native leaders in the country, even though he avoids national politics. Clarence Louie is chief and CEO of the Osoyoos Band in British Columbia's South Okanogan.

 He is 44 years old, though he looks like he would have been an infant when he began his remarkable 20-year run as chief. He took a band that had been declared bankrupt and taken over by Indian Affairs and has turned it into an inspiration.

 In 2000, the band set a goal of becoming self-sufficient in five years. They're there. The Osoyoos, 432 strong, own, among other things, a vineyard, a winery, a golf course and a tourist resort, and they are partners in the Baldy Mountain ski development. They have more businesses per capita than any other first nation in Canada. There are not only enough jobs for everyone, there are so many jobs being created that there are now members of 13 other tribal communities working for the Osoyoos. The little band contributes $40-million a year to the area economy.

 Chief Louie is tough. He is as proud of the fact that his band fires its own people as well as hires them. He has his mottos posted throughout the Rez. He believes there is no such thing as consensus; that there will always be those who disagree. And, he says he is milquetoast compared to his own mother when it comes to how today's lazy aboriginal youth, almost exclusively male, should be dealt with.

 Rent a plane, she told him, and fly them all to Iraq. Dump 'em off and all the ones who make it back are keepers. Right on, Mom. The message he has brought here to the Chippewa, Dene and Cree who live around the oil sands is equally direct: Get involved, create jobs and meaningful jobs, not just window dressing for the oil companies.

 The biggest employer, he says, shouldn't be the band office. He also says the time has come to get over it. No more whining about 100-year-old failed experiments. No foolishly looking to the Queen to protect rights.

 Louie says aboriginals here and along the Mackenzie Valley should not look at any sharing in development as rocking-chair money but as an investment opportunity to create sustainable businesses. He wants them to move beyond entry-level jobs to real jobs they earn all the way to the boardrooms. 

He wants to see business manners develop: showing up on time, working extra hours. The business lunch, he says, should be drive through, and then right back at it.

“You're going to lose your language and culture faster in poverty than you will in economic development”, he says to those who say he is ignoring tradition. Tough talk, at times shocking talks, given the audience, but on this day in this community, they took it and, judging by the response, they loved it.

 Eighty per cent like what I have to say”, Louie says. “Twenty per cent don't. I always say to the 20 per cent, 'Get over it.' Chances are you're never going to see me again and I'm never going to see you again. Get some counselling.”

 The first step, he says, is all about leadership. He prides himself on being a stay-home chief who looks after the potholes in his own backyard and wastes no time running around fighting 100-year-old battles.

 ”The biggest challenge will be how you treat your own people.

Blaming government? That time is over.”

 Wow- What a Guy!


 There are rough players and there are dirty players. I’m rough and dirty.

Stan Mikita


 Arthritis.

 An open-label study of people with rheumatoid arthritis who were on medication found that when those with low levels of vitamin D were given 60,000IU a month for 12 weeks and their  activity level improved significantly. (Int J Rheum Dis 2017)


 Today, yes today - quit putting it off!

I would like you to write a testimonial (see examples at www.drcounselling.com – Navigation/Testimonials)

or do a review of the book, Communication & Relationships.

 Short or long reviews and/or testimonials help authors to interest readers to pick up their book from the thousands lining bookstore shelves. The testimonial/review gets the reader to the book and if it is helpful, and meets the reader’s needs, it can lead to a sale. So thank you!


 Living on Earth is expensive, but it does include a free trip around the sun every year.


 If you’re purchasing a new or used car soon, check out next week’s newsletter.


 Have a healthy week!

 Dan

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