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Dr. Dan's Newsletter Vol #112 That’s How I See It!

 

 It seems like this "fixing of my computer" drags on.

It may be fixed but I'll never know unless you tell me!

Please inform me if you have received newsletter #112.

danrosin@drcounselling.com (just say yes)


 

Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a
person; having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words
,
but
to pour them all out, just as they are
, chaff and grain together
,
knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what

is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness, blow the

rest away.           -George Eliot


 

 What’s on Tap:

The Family Tree; Preview of a new concept for C & R -“Fulfilled"; Sympathizing with Minorities; Maturity Rules (for those over 65 only).

 


 

Welcome to all you fine folks I met at Ami’s Falafel Restaurant these past 3 weeks. Just to let you know, the newsletter, “That’s How I See It!", will keep you informed and provide information to send to your Social Media contacts as we inch closer to the launch of “Communication & Relationships” on February 27. I will be

re-launching my first book, "Finding Balance”, at the same time.

 

 

Only a few weeks until Christmas! Are you ready for the big day? Do you have all your gifts purchased? Can I make a suggestion; one that might be greatly appreciated, and save you money?

 

For a family and/or office gift may I suggest— “The Family Tree”.

My wife and I were part of a team that created this game and we are very proud of it.

 

“The Family Tree” is more than just a game; it is an activity that brings people together to listen, laugh and learn while sharing the stories that link the present with the past. It is designed for families and friends who want to have fun getting to know more about each other.

 

“The Family Tree" is a cooperative activity; each person must finish in order for the game to be completed. There are generally no incorrect answers. Most questions ask for your opinion. It is important to allow each person to express his or her ideas without judging their answer as right or wrong and without trying to correct them. It is an incredibly beautiful game board.

 

                           Was $39.95    Now $15.95  (only 48 left)

 

       Only 300 original copies of “Communication & Relationships” left.

                                       $5.00 each, or 4 for $16.

 

   Telephone 204-299-9399 or email danrosin@drcounselling.com

            and pick up at 178 Elm St., or have purchases couriered for $7.00.

 

 

I tried to re-marry my ex-wife

But she figured out I was only after my money.

 

 

There are three new concepts I have inserted into the new “Communication & Relationships” book that will be released on February 27. Here is one:

 Fulfillment

  I often find myself with clients who identify themselves as depressed and/or experiencing feelings of having missed out in life, talking about fulfillment.

 

I do believe that many people have an expectation that their job is going to fulfill them, and in some cases it does--partly!

That having a relationship, or a family, or having a nice car/house will fulfill them, and it does--partly!

 

All of these relationships and things do count, but there is a piece of us that just won’t be satisfied by being in a relationship or by acquiring possessions. That piece is “fulfillment”.

 

To me, fulfillment is a very personal thing. We need to find out what that unique thing about us is; that thing we have a passion for that is just ours. Perhaps for you it is learning, music, exercise, golf, painting, animals, grandchildren, special friendships, or helping others.

 

When you’re looking to feel fulfilled

Don’t start with reality.

Start with the possibilities and dreams

         Then temper reality.

 

 

My wife’s cooking is so bad

We usually pray after our food.

 

 

Sympathizing with Minorities

 

What objections could I possibly have to gender, racial, and ethnic student recruitment and gender hiring in order to benefit people in victim categories?

 

One objection is that the opposite of bigotry is not more bigotry, but fairness. Where once women, Jews, Asians, and Indigenes were blocked entirely or discriminated against, now whites, men, Christians, Jews, and, remarkably, Asians, are discriminated against. This highly illiberal favouritism rejects the fairness of universalistic standards, and instead, using the beard of “diversity,” celebrates “good” reverse sexism, racism, and bigotry. Despising people of certain categories in the past have been replaced in the advocacy for “social justice” by despising people of other categories. 

 

We should be very clear that for every female that is hired because she is female, a male is not hired because he is male. For every person of colour hired because he or she is a person of colour, a person of white is not hired because he or she is a person of white. For every Indigenous native hired because he or she is an Indigenous native, people with other backgrounds—Asian, Middle Eastern, African, Oceanian, South American, or Euro-American—are refused the opportunity to compete for the position. What we have now, given Canadian Government and university priorities and actions, is structural or institutional reverse racism disadvantaging whites, men, Euro-Canadians, Asians, and Christians and Jews.

 

A second objection is that considerations of academic merit and excellence are no longer primary considerations at universities, but are replaced by the “social justice” of race, gender, ethnicity, sexuality, etc. The strongest academic and intellectual candidates for a position—as a student, professor, or administrator—may never even be considered, never mind admitted or hired. In other words, institutions of higher education are no longer pursuing the purpose that they were designed to serve, for which citizens have funded them with billions of tax dollars. Universities are no longer communities of scholars, but congeries of squabbling racial, gender, and ethnic factions. This is the “progress” that “progressives” have brought to higher education. 

 

A third objection is that, while protecting the rights of minorities is necessary and just, to disregard the rights of the majority to be treated fairly is both unjust and undemocratic. Long struggles over centuries with feudalism, royalty, and aristocracy finally gave birth to democracy, in which the majority get to decide, within constitutional limits, questions of the day. Many countries to this day do not have democracy. To dismiss the majority as evil oppressors, and to discriminate against its members in access to the benefits of society, such as jobs, is unconscionable and tyrannical. Why exactly are we electing governments that not only condone, but encourage such discrimination?   

                            Philip Carl Salzman

For the complete article go to Frontier Centre For Public Policy, November 9, 2018.

 

 

It’s been raining for days now and my husband seems very depressed by it.

He keeps standing by the window, staring.

If it continues, I’m going to have to let him in.

 

 

Maturity Rules

 

This section is just for those over 65.

Now make sure you young people do not read this section!

 

Interesting Thoughts on Getting Old

 

-Your kids are becoming you… but your grandchildren are perfect!

-Going out is good… coming home is better!

-You forget names… but it’s okay because the other people forgot that they even knew you!

-You realize you’re never going to be really good at anything… especially golf! (This really hurts.)

-The things you used to care to do, you no longer care to do; but you really do care that you don’t care to do them anymore.

-You sleep better on a lounge chair with the TV blaring than in bed. It’s called “pre-sleep”.

-You miss the days when everything worked with just an “on” and “off” switch.

-You tend to use more four-letter words… “What?”… “When?”…?

-Now that you can afford expensive jewellery, it’s not safe to wear it anywhere.

-What used to be freckles are now liver spots.

-Everybody whispers.

-You have three sizes of clothes in your closet… two of which you will never wear.

-But old is good in somethings: old songs, movies and best of all, old friends!

 

It’s not what you gather but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived.

 

 

Have a great week and get your book (C & R) and “Family Tree” orders in soon. danrosin@drcounselling.com

 

 

 

 

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