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Dr. Dan's "Thats How I See It!" Newsletter Vol. #121


I am still determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I may be in, for I have also learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.

                                                                                  Martha Washington

 What's on Tap:

 Relationships and Dependency; Sample Letter; Shopping Is Good For You!; Reader Response; Did You Know?

 Relationships and Dependency

 In our lives we often search for that one person to meet all our needs. Someone to take care of us, to fill the void we feel. All too often we end up searching in the wrong places and snagging the wrong fish. We place such a high value in having a person (any person) in our life, that we overlook their shortcomings, we defer to them and become dependent on them. In many cases they can’t really live up to our lofty expectations and the relationship goes through some very tough times, maybe even failure. Dependency (waiting to be rescued) on others is definitely not good, but learning to be less dependent on our self is even worse. The problem with looking for answers to life’s challenges outside of our self (using other people’s ideas and advice, books with lists, TV talk show hosts) is that we lose touch with who we are, and eventually, our ability to solve our own issues rusts away. When we become dependent, we don’t develop our own problem solving skills, we don’t take risks, and we don’t experience the rush of success or the exhilaration of high self-esteem that is the result of “doing it our way”. We don’t know what we want or need in our life and we certainly don’t develop a personalized balanced life philosophy.

 If we are to be independent and healthy, we must first learn to listen to and love our selves. In truth, we cannot love others unless we first possess a loving acceptance of our selves and who we are! Can we expect others to respect/love us if we are not prepared to love our selves? No! In all fairness, we cannot expect others to do what we are not prepared to do. 

 A healthy person in a healthy environment lives out the balance between work, play, laughter, aloneness, and touch. It’s interesting about touch; it seems that it takes away the toxins in the touched person and they feel less lonely, less sad and more hopeful. We can touch people in many ways: with our words, our eyes, or we can physically touch them. The power in touch has the ability to be life altering. It seems that in reaching out and touching people we can make a difference, not only to their lives but to ours as well.

 A healthy/well person is one who loves themself and understands that they are “in charge” of their life and are committed to maintaining a balanced lifestyle. They understand that to maintain their health they need to consciously work towards healthy choices. Most people do not have the necessary permission/messages in their computer (heads) to allow them to live a balanced life. So they must choose to stay healthy. They must make conscious decisions, plan, and become knowledgeable about what it takes to be and stay healthy. For most of us, living a healthy lifestyle is not an automatic decision; it is a moment-by-moment choice! 

That’s How I See It!                    Dan

 Sample Letter

As you are already aware, I am getting ready to launch "Communication & Relationships" at McNally Robinson on February 27. This has been my project for the last several months/years.

 I need some help informing people about the launch! Would you please consider sending the attached sample letter (or your own words) about the book to your e-mail and social media networks?

 I cannot begin to thank you enough


If all of you could interest just 2 individuals to purchase the book, 
C & R, during Launch Week, and/or purchase an extra copy for yourself, 
(a present for someone you care about), it would become a #1 Best Seller 
and I would be one grateful author!
This is a sample letter you could use to encourage those on your 
Social Media lists to purchase the book the week of Feb. 24 - March 6 
in person at McNally’s, or online 


Hi …

Just a short note to let you know that (my friend) Dr. Dan Rosin is launching his book, "Communication & Relationships”, at McNally Robinson (Grant Park) on Feb. 27, at 7 pm. I have read the book and I highly recommend it—really helpful!

 He is also re-releasing his first book, “Finding Balance", at this time (10,500 sold to date).

 You could do one of three things:

 -drop down to McNally Robinson the week of February 24-March 6 and purchase a copy of C & R

-purchase a copy online the week of Feb. 24 - March 6

    -attend the launch on February 27 and purchase the book.

 As an additional incentive, if you purchase both books, you will receive his family game, “The Family Tree”, (a $39.95 value) “free.”

 To purchase online at McNally Robinson, go to:

This is Arlene’s first posting in the Newsletter and I am not sure 
I should publish it—look at the title!

 Shopping Is Good For You! ----- Really?

 Have you changed your grocery shopping habits recently? Do you now order online and take advantage of home delivery? You might want to re-think your practice.

 According to Julie Van Rosendaal's article in the February 2nd 2019 edition of The Globe and Mail, we need to "preserve old-school shopping, not just because it's a nice ritual" - [although some will disagree with this sentiment] – “but because it's good for our health."

 The article goes on to explain that in her 2017 Ted Talk, psychologist Susan Pinker was quoted as saying, "Social isolation is the public health risk of our time." She emphasized a study that found social integration headed up lifestyle factors having a positive bearing on longevity. In fact, it ranked ahead of quitting smoking, exercising on a regular basis and maintaining a healthy weight. Time and again, research has shown a direct link between social interactions and a sense of well-being.

 Even the brief interactions we have at the grocery store count: the discussion with a stranger in the produce aisle about the ersatz tomatoes in February; catching up with a friend you meet in the dairy section; admiring a proud Mom's baby who's watching you intently from his perch in the shopping cart; discussing the Polar Vortex with the cashier at checkout. All are important contacts that you definitely won't get while choosing bananas and meat online. Besides, the physical activity of walking from your car into the store and up and down the aisles is a benefit in itself. Punching keys on your computer or phone to order? Unfortunately, not so much!

 Good article and thank you Arlene—keep them coming. This goes for the rest of you interesting writers as well!

 Reader Response

This response is from a reader in reference to Understanding Engineers--7 Insights 
(Newsletter #119). Do you think he might be an engineer?
The mind of the engineer clearly indicates the benefit of the engineer to society.
 Consider the bike story. The engineer made the right decision to stay out of trouble, 
which is important in this society we live in, or maybe he only saw the bike.
 By suggesting a smaller glass, he is not only saving on useless conversation but 
also cutting down waste.
 The engineer in the golf story is not only going to save his blind friends money in 
green fees by having them golf at night, he is probably going to develop an audio 
sourced golf ball with a digital sensing device attached to the golf club.
And in the case of the civil and mechanical engineers, they probably met at a conference 
and realized that they had compatible products and incompatible customers.
Finally the engineer knows that he’ll be out of business or he’ll lose his job very quickly 
if he doesn’t complicate the simple. He must take the basic product, add features and then 
more features and then put it out in the marketplace.
So, in summary, the engineer has it all figured out; it is the rest of society that needs 
to learn from the engineer.
 Ken (different Ken—not my cousin, Kenn, the engineer)

 Did You Know?
For all you folks who picked up the pre-release sample copy of 
“Communication & Relationships” earlier this year when I was trading 
the book for e-mail addresses, I want you to know that some of the contents 
and cover of "Communication & Relationships" have been revised and will be 
available for the Launch on Feb. 27.

 Have a great week and remember, you have a date on February 27, 2019!