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"Notes" #26

Oh, I wonder who just received her certificate in the mail today--Masters of Marriage & Family Therapy? Oh, our daughter Lisa did.

Congratulations Lisa you slugged it out and made it happen and we are incredibly proud of you!
                                            Lol  Mom & Dad (Drinda & Dan)

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Our mind does have a direct effect on our body. We can change the body - from illness to health - if we are prepared to deal with our feelings. If our mind/body sends us a message about the state of health it is in and we chose to ignore the message/warning, then the body has to increase the intensity of the message. What this means is if we don't pay attention to the early signs of poor health (fatigue, colds, etc.) then the body has to yell louder, get sicker, hurt more. If one's health is still ignored, then things might escalate to the big leagues - ulcer, migraine headaches, cancer, heart disease and more. Best we have a plan "in mind" for optimal health.       Dan

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Humorous (I hope)

The teacher gave her fifth grade class an assignment: Get their parents to tell them a story with a moral at the end of it.
 
             The next day, the kids came back and, one by one, began to tell
their stories.
 
There were all the regular types of stuff: spilled milk, and pennies saved. But then the teacher realized, much to her dismay that only Janie was left. 
 
'Janie, do you have a story to share?'
 
''Yes ma'am. My daddy told me a story about my Mommy. She was a Marine pilot in Desert Storm, and her plane got hit.
 
She had to bail out over enemy territory, and all she had was a flask of whiskey, a pistol, and a survival knife. 
 
She drank the whiskey on the way down so the bottle wouldn't break, and then her parachute landed her right in the middle of 20 Iraqi troops. She shot 15 of them with the pistol, until she ran out of bullets, killed four more with the knife, till the blade broke, and then she killed the last Iraqi with her bare hands.
 
''Good Heavens," said the horrified teacher. "What did your Daddy tell you was the moral to this horrible story?"
 
"Don't mess with Mommy when she's been drinking.

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Retread is a previously shared article--sometime over the last 12 years--that I feel is worth repeating. I put it at the end so it can be ignored if you have read it.


 Healthy People Do Better! 
Healthy, well-balanced people do better, relate better to others, and give more to their jobs and the people they love than those who are unwell.
The key is: before you can give to others, you first must be healthy and well yourself.
In my writings, workshops and keynotes, I tell my audiences to "Take care of yourself first, then take care of others". At a recent workshop for a school, a person got himself very upset and told me that I was all but undermining the entire extracurricular program in that school division. I was frustrated by this 'ridiculous' accusation until I realized that he had misinterpreted "Take care of yourself..." to mean "... and to heck with others".
"Take care of yourself first and then take care of others" is not self-centered but rather an expression of self-care. Yes, you DO have to take care of others, that is often what you get paid for, or have signed on for as in being a mother/father, but to be able to do that, you first need to take care of yourself. Not everyone knows how - or is able - to give themselves permission to take care of themselves. Consequently, they hear "self-centred" because they don't see a balanced way of living as an option for themselves, or for that matter for others. I firmly believe that no matter what job you have, healthy, well-balanced people have higher morale, get more done, and are absent from work less often.
Too many people I have had the privilege of working with as a counsellor/therapist have not consciously set their priorities of-- first self, then partner, family/friends, and then work. As a result, they have paid dearly with poor health, loss of quality of life, and the disintegration of relationships.
The message here is that it's okay to continue with your "work life" as long as you take care of your "real life" first - yourself, your partner, your family and friends. That way, everyone will get their share of your time and 'best' energy, and you'll get many well-deserved strokes for being in balance and having a life outside your job. Your self-esteem will soar, and you will feel good about yourself and your life. Hopefully!
There is a saying "If you don't know what you want from your life, then someone else will tell you." and their request is most often based on their needs not yours. It is essential that we be pro-active when it comes to our own health. We need a Plan, a Health Plan, a daily/weekly reminder that reflects our commitment to the Fun (quality of life activities) and Relaxation (re-energize) part of our life.

           Fun, Relaxation and Work in Balance=Quality of Life.

 

 

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