Newsletter Vol. #82 Thats How I See It!

Newsletter Vol. #82 That's how I see it!

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In this edition, check out the articles on: Empowerment; Emojis-Who Knew?; The "60's Scoop" Continues; The Office Party is Dying; and the reason Santa isn't coming to my house.

EMPOWERMENT 
Empowerment means "the growth and development of people's sense of autonomy and trust in their own personal power" - a trust in their own capacity to be effective, to have an impact on their world. "Growth is a process of learning about the world, how to respond to events, to predict them, to control them; and this is a process of achieving power. It takes place within the relationships that surround a child from its moment of birth." Growth and power always take place in a network of relationships.

People who begin to feel that they cannot make an impact on their environment - that no matter what they do, they cannot seem to make a difference, that all their efforts are wasted - learn, quite literally, that they are helpless. This learned sense of helplessness - or let us call it powerlessness, for that is what it is - results in changes in both behaviour and mood. Behaviourally, the person simply ceases to try. Why struggle, after all, when it has been clearly demonstrated that one's efforts are useless? Emotionally, the person sinks into a depression. S/he becomes unhappy, lethargic, self-deprecating, and may develop such physical symptoms as loss of appetite, sleeplessness, and so on. Clearly, the destruction of a person's feelings of power and control has a drastic effect on that person's feelings and ability to function.
 
Research strongly suggests that we would rather accept the blame for our own victimization than acknowledge that we have less control over our lives than we would like. Indeed, perhaps little is so clear in modern western psychology as the principle that human beings will go to great lengths to maintain a sense of control in their lives, and that the replacement of control with powerlessness is experienced as disastrous.

This need for mastery extends beyond the physical environment to the interpersonal one, and some of the most important lessons taught by parents to children involve methods of getting other human beings to cooperate with them, to meet their needs and wants, and to accede to their requests.

So children learn about power (and justice and conflict) not just from what their parents try to teach them, but also from observing their parents' interactions with them, with each other, and with persons outside the family. They learn from television, movies, books, and school friends. They learn what power strategies work, which ones are acceptable, what they can get away with. They learn about the rules for family and other relationships, and about cultural values concerning power, effectiveness and influence. 

That's how anonymous and I see it!

Check further for Empowerment quotes.

Women are leaders everywhere you look -- from the CEO who runs a Fortune 500 company to the housewife who raises her children and heads her household. Our country was built by strong women, and we will continue to break down walls and defy stereotypes. -- Nancy Pelosi

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission.
                                                                                     - Eleanor Roosevelt

Emojis-Who Knew?

Emojis are pictograms that have become an integral part of online communication. They fill in body language, tone of voice, that sense of emotional nuance that you lose when you have just text in formal communication.

Originally developed by Japanese cellphone manufacturers, existing emojis became fully integrated into the wider standard for computer text in 2010. The number of emojis has grown to 1,281. The latest emoji update includes a bottle with a popping cork, a turkey, and the oft-requested taco to its line-up of symbols. Until this year, emojis representing faces and people were only available in a single colour.

Neil Cohn, University of California, states that emojis used by teenagers don't appear to be all that different from early humans using cave paintings. Using images integrated with spoken language, in this case with text, is as old as human communication.

Inspired by an article by Peter Henderson

The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it.                                                         Roseanne Barr

I believe that it is as much a right and duty for women to do something with their lives as for men and we are not going to be satisfied with such frivolous parts as you give us.            Louisa May Alcott

The "60's Scoop" Continues

By Brian Giesbrecht, October 19, 2017

The Frontier Centre For Public Policy

These are the conclusions Mr. Giesbrecht reaches in his article
1. We have more Indigenous children in care now than ever before, and we don't seem to be giving them a better life than the lives they were living in their inadequate homes. How is this an improvement over what went before? What purpose is served by apprehending so many children?

2. Why are so many Indigenous parents failing their children? Why are so many Indigenous mothers giving birth to FASD babies? Why are Indigenous leaders not "leading" on the issue of FASD, and why are both levels of government pretending that the grossly disproportionate number of FASD births in some Indigenous communities is not a very real problem?

3. Children need, and deserve permanent homes. Is it time to consider bringing back adoption as an option for Indigenous children, and getting it right this time - leaving racial politics out of the equation? Indigenous couples would have preferred status to adopt, but if they chose not to adopt, other couples would have the right to be considered for adoption. And would it not make more sense for government and chiefs' organizations to help struggling adoptive parents with cultural and other issues related to the adoption rather than scolding them? (Headlines in today's Free Press seem to indicate The Provincial Gov't is seriously looking at doing just that.)

4. A child's ethnic, religious and cultural background are all factors that must be considered when making permanent plans for that child, but none of those factors are as important as the paramount consideration - namely, what is in the long-term best interests of that child. Is it not time to jettison the false notion that a child is nothing more than property belonging to a culture?
To read the entire article, and I encourage you to do so, contact: info@fcpp.org

If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.                                                                           Margaret Thatcher

In too many instances, the march to globalization has also meant the marginalization of women and girls. And that must change. Hillary Clinton

 The Office Party is Dying

If you can't imagine hanging out with your office mates, chances are they feel the same way about you. Today's employees are far less likely to make friends with their colleagues or spend much time socializing at work, according to a recent article by Adam Grant of the Wharton school at the University of Pennsylvania. Yet, while a more "transactional" view of the office sounds like a recipe for business success, a potential downside is rising stress levels among workers that, according to a recent Harvard and Stanford study, can be just as bad for your health as second-hand smoke.

I don't believe this is just a current phenomenon. 25 years ago, the only way to get a good turn out for the "staff party" was to combine it with a wellness type activity (volleyball evening, cross-country skiing, square dancing). People didn't really want to spend the evening with the same people they had just spent all day/week/month with. The carrot to get them to come together was a fun activity, but even that didn't occur all that often.

The problem with "all work and no play" at the workplace is that people don't connect in a personal way and small things (who makes the coffee, who puts things away, misunderstandings in what people meant, etc.) begin to bother people, and stress and tension built. I myself see at least 3-4 people a week who are very stressed or on stress leave due to poor interpersonal relationships at the workplace.

Do you agree, disagree, or have an  example?  danrosin@drcounselling.com

The fastest way to change society is to mobilize the women of the world.
                                                                                      Charles Malik

Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.                                           Oprah Winfrey

Well, it's December and Christmas is not that far off. The shiny lights are beginning to pop up and the malls are definitely filling up. I am a little sad this Christmas. Our son, who just got married, won't be home this year-but that isn't all of it. I am sad because I have discovered that at my age I don't need anything, that Santa has no reason to visit our house anymore.

My wife just came in the door from Christmas shopping and I am reminded when you have two grandkids, you don't have to worry about Santa coming to your house or not. Now if I can only get the fat jolly guy to pay for the presents "He" brings!