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Dr Dan's "That's How I See It!" newsletter Vol. $117


 Be unselfish. That is the first and final
commandment for those who would be
useful. If you think of yourself only,
cannot develop because you are choking
the source of development, which is
spiritual expansion through thought for

                                          Brian Tracy


What's on Tap!


Share the Newsletter; Working in the Helping Professions; Climate Change; Wellness is a Choice; Lose-Lose Situation; Testimonials for “Finding Balance”; Why the US is in Trouble.




I would appreciate your sharing the “That’s How I See It!” newsletter with all those in your social media lists whom you feel would be interested in its content (maybe 5-10 people), and encourage them to subscribe to receive it regularly.


My first book, I can have fun on a school night!/Finding Balance, spent 44 consecutive weeks on McNally Robinson’s Best Seller list and at present has sold over 10,500 copies.


Thanks again for your help! E-mail me at or call me--204-299-9399 and let me know what you think about the book.


 See you at the Launch on Feb. 27 at McNally Robinson.



If you work in the “Helping Professions” you will need to accept that:


   You probably “could have done more” for the client (after the   fact). The danger is that you’ll have no life or you’ll burn out and be of no help at all.

People are responsible for getting what they need from life. They are responsible for their own actions and needs. Come to think of it, that goes for you too (helper).

People in the “Helping Professions” often treat their clients better than they treat themselves, or their colleagues.

"Climate change" "is simply shorthand for a whole range of its concomitants, including environmental degradation, deforestation, desertification, atmospheric carbon dioxide and methane build up, soil erosion and nutrient loss, toxic waste accumulation, sea-level rise, fishery and coral reef decline, biodiversity shrinkage, and increasing socio-political instability and violence."

 Still more rarely discussed is what is driving climate change: human population tripled since the end of World War II to well over seven billion people. 


Edd Doerr



Wellness -It’s a Choice                


The concept of wellness had its origins in the United States approximately 50 years ago. A fundamental belief of this movement is that for each of us to become the most we can be requires a conscious commitment to making healthy choices in all aspects of our lives. By the deliberate act of making positive choices relating to the physical, emotional, intellectual, social, and spiritual elements of our being, we move towards self-actualization. In addition, there is a need to maintain balance and harmony within our own personal environment. Therefore, attention to the development and maintenance of all these facets of the individual is essential to good health. This appears to be the essence of the philosophy of wellness.


This philosophy of health and well-being may seem somewhat out of place and unrealistic in today’s fast paced, overworked, and driven society. People talk as if they were not in charge of their lives and choose to be driven by the “should” and “have-to” of other people’s expectations. They make it sound as if they have no choice in how they live their lives. However, ultimately we all have a choice! Daily we choose what we eat, how much we eat, how we spend our time either challenging our intellect, our awareness and expression for feelings, or by going brain dead in front of the television; we choose whether or not to exercise, to get enough sleep, to search for the truth and meaning in our lives, or to just ‘veg’ out. Sometimes we choose to leave (or stay in) an unfulfilling job when it provides us with little joy or satisfaction. The same goes for relationships; we may end up unfulfilled, lonely, dissatisfied and distant--- but we do have a choice!


Inevitably our choices have consequences! If life feels like more of a drag than a joy, perhaps the reason has something to do with the decisions we’ve made? Being healthy, energetic, and alive is the result of making positive healthy choices. To live a committed wellness lifestyle means to grow in the awareness of the choices we have, then make the best decisions we can at that time, based on the information we have. We need to learn from our decisions, we need to be flexible and open to change, and we need to accept the consequences of our decisions. To be well, or to be 'into wellness’ means that the majority of our decisions are positive and constructive, and result in more satisfaction, ease in living, joy, and improved health both for self and for those around us.


Each of us is responsible for our own well-being! We also have the responsibility to encourage others we care about to take care of themselves. However, personal well-being ought to be the priority for all of us. In order for us to be positive and supportive of others, we need to first have our own house in order. Hans Selye, a noted researcher and author, suggests that the reason we need to take such good care of ourselves is so we can invest our improved health and vitality back into other people.


                     Take care of yourself first,

                     Then take care of others!


Wellness is a choice! It is not free! It takes time and energy to be healthy and well. Are you willing to pay that price?    





How’s this for a lose-lose situation: Some people feel they need to be near perfect to be acceptable and when they inevitably come up short, they either use a dogmatic approach like bullying, or they physically or emotionally run away. Regardless, in some manner, they push people away. Sometimes they give up and play “poor me” or they become negative or discount themselves and others to get people to do, think or act the way they want them to.


To see what people have said about my first book, “Finding Balance” (10,500 sold) go to, click on Testimonials.

A few sample testimonials

"This is a book I want the people I care most about to read."

“I came away from reading the book feeling energized and having a rejuvenated will to do the things that I should do to keep myself healthy.”

 “I think this book was written for and about me.”

 “After reading your book, I now realize how much of life I have been missing. I will become more aware and make a better life. I will read the book again, page by page, then I will read it again.”

 “Reading your book has helped me to redefine what is important in my life and I have begun to make the changes to be healthier and happier.”

 “The book is full of snippets of wisdom that hit me where I live. It helped me to rethink where I am in my life and where I want to be, but most importantly the book showed me how to get there.”

“It’s easy to read and it is written in one or two page chunks of information, so you can read a section or two even if you only have a few minutes to spare.”


When you are not “in charge” of your life, you try to control other people’s


         A DC airport ticket agent offers some examples of 'why' the United States is in trouble (besides you know who):

 I         We had a New Hampshire Congresswoman (Carol Shea-Porter) ask for an aisle seat   so that her hair wouldn't get messed up by being near the window. (On an airplane!)


                 We got a call from a Kansas Congressman's (Moore) staffer (Howard Bauleke),

               who wanted to go to Capetown. I started to explain the length of the flight and the

                   passport i n   formation, and then he interrupted me with, ''I'm not trying to    make you look stupid, but Capetown is in Massachusetts ....''


       Without trying to make him look stupid, I calmly explained, ''Cape Cod is in  Massachusetts, Capetown is in Africa ''
                                   his response -- click.


               A senior Vermont Congressman (Bernie Sanders) called, furious about a Florida

                                   Package we did. I asked what was wrong with the vacation in Orlando. He said he was expecting

           an ocean-view room. I tried to explain that's not possible, since Orlando is in the middle of the state.
           He replied, 'don't lie to me, I looked on the map and Florida is a very thin state!'' (OMG)


Have a great week and be thankful you live where you do!